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Years between children

What is your ideal spacing between your children?


Asked by CometGirl at 10:14 AM on Jun. 14, 2011 in General Parenting

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  • We planned 5 - 6 years. I saw too many people who had their kids 2 - 4 years apart, and they did not seem to know any of them. Multiple kids in diapers makes it harder to potty train, and you miss out on that "quality" time with each one.

    Mine are 5 1/2 years apart. The older one was in school when the second one came. She was able to follow more complex directions, and be more of a help. I really knew her before my son was born. This is easier if you start early also. Had my 1st at 21, and the 2nd at 26. We are 42 and 43 and he will be in college before we are 46....nice.

    Answer by tgbear at 4:04 PM on Jun. 14, 2011

  • We waited 4 years but only because the first time around was twins lol

    Answer by momma_twins7317 at 10:14 AM on Jun. 14, 2011

  • 18 months - 2 years. It's hard the first few months, but then it always made it much easier because they entertained each other. Mine are spaced 2 years, 18 months, 8 years, 20 months.

    Answer by missanc at 10:16 AM on Jun. 14, 2011

  • I only had the one, and no plans for anymore!

    Answer by Dahis at 10:15 AM on Jun. 14, 2011

  • i would say 5years.....but only because i have 2 that are only 2yrs apart and 2 that are 5years apart and its some much eazyer with the middle and last child than it was with the first 2.....

    Answer by cara124 at 10:16 AM on Jun. 14, 2011

  • My younger 2 are 2 1/2 years. It's perfect. They play nicely and my daughter is old enough to help my son.

    Answer by mompam at 10:17 AM on Jun. 14, 2011

  • 18 months

    Answer by mrsary at 10:24 AM on Jun. 14, 2011

  • 4 or 5 years

    Answer by jmpj8107 at 10:33 AM on Jun. 14, 2011

  • I like the 1 year spacing when I was younger. My first 3 are 15 months and 13 months apart. Then there's 3 1/2 years between #3 and #4 and that just sucked. I couldn't adapt back to having a newborn once the older ones were out of that stage. At the time, if we could have afforded it, I probably would have tried right away for #5 so that he/she would be a year younger than #4 but it wasn't in the cards. #5 came a little after #4 turned 4 and that has worked out since I then had 4 more sets of hands to help out with him. He's 11 months old (today!) and the last. I just worry he's going to be lost and bored once #4 starts school in the fall. It will be just me and him. The last time I was alone in the house with a 1yo was when my oldest turned 1 and I was very pregnant with #2, lol. She's turning 11 in 2 weeks.

    Answer by justanotherjen at 11:46 AM on Jun. 14, 2011

  • We have 11 years- Ideal? Probably not but it's working for us...

    Answer by monshine2 at 12:51 PM on Jun. 14, 2011