I have been planning on placing my child for adoption since the begining of my pregnancy. I found a family that said they wanted to adopt the baby. I have gotten everything on my end figured out. Talked to an attorney about cost and all this. It took them a little bit to decide to adopt because it'sbeen just the two of them for so many years. She's unable to have children. They say they want to adopt the baby, but they aren't getting anything figured out on their end. They don't know for sure how they will pay for the attorney or the homestudy. And they still haven't done the homestudy, and those can take a while.
Wouldn't you think they'd be more on the ball getting this figured out? It seems to me like they wanted this for so long but now that it's real and they can have it they don't really want to. Like they are scared or something, or thought they still wanted this but don't really anymore. I already told them before if they didn't want to to go through with it after finding out the cost and everything it was okay I'd have no hard feelings.
What do you guys think?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 10:37 AM on Jun. 14, 2011 in Adoption
Answer by takes_a_village at 10:45 AM on Jun. 14, 2011
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Answer by hollyanne31 at 11:02 AM on Jun. 14, 2011
I'm an AM so I've been through the process. Adoption takes a lot of planning from a PAP's end. There are several things that need to take place in order for a PAP to adopt. Usually it does take time but the timeline can vary. Sometimes you can expedite things if you have to. Most PAP's start the homestudy/attorney process knowing they want to adopt. Your case seems different because they weren't actively pursuing adoption when you approached them. Not sure why your PAP's are dragging their feet, so to speak. Maybe they're unsure or maybe they're intimidated by the idea of becoming parents. It's a big decision for both sides...and yes there are a lot of attorney/homestudy expenses that will need to be paid, so a PAP will need to have the resources to pay for the required services. Good Luck!!
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