I was molested as a child, I remember later on at 9 again being molested, but by a girl.
I was adopted into my family and I also remember at the age of 14 being asked by my Mom if my brother (family I was adopted into) if he ever "touched me", when I said "No, he didn't" my mom said "It's okay, you can tell me", although I don't remember him specifically doing it, obviously I had it happen to me before. Well, as a result of that, I would get "weird" around my brother and adopted Dad, whenever they would hug me I remember thinking as a teenager "What is somoene thinks they're molesting me?" Idk if it was just a result of being molested as a child or if it was because my mom put the idea in my head later on. Now, I am a Mother of my own baby, he is a beautiful child, 1 yr old and I already don't want to bathe him because I don't want him or anyone thinking anything like that. No, I've never touched my son unappropriatly, but I don't know how to feel comfortable in things like that since everything to me as a child before I was adopted was taken to molestation..baths, changing "lets play Mommy and Daddy house" etc.. My husband has tried to help me and I love everything about being a Mom, I just don't want my scars to affect my child. Are there any tips out there, other than those who find me crazy? I did take therapy, but am wondering if I need more in this chapter of my life (Motherhood)
Asked by Anonymous at 11:07 AM on Jun. 14, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by attap5 at 11:32 AM on Jun. 14, 2011
I think it is admirable of you to recognize you may need some additional therapy. I do think it will help. God Bless you mama!!
Answer by Dahis at 11:10 AM on Jun. 14, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 11:12 AM on Jun. 14, 2011
I was...I'm VERY cautious when it comes to my DD and being around people. Like that is usually my first thought...could/would this person do anything? It's an awful way to think and be,but I don;t put my worries on her. I have taught her about stranger danger and that NO one is to look at or touch her privates unless it is the Dr. and I am there...she is old enough to wash herself and wipe herself.
Answer by happymama02 at 11:13 AM on Jun. 14, 2011
Answer by NannyB. at 11:16 AM on Jun. 14, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 11:18 AM on Jun. 14, 2011
I worry about the same thing too not really that others will think I'm doing something,but like in my own mind if that makes any sense...just because everyone says most child molesters were molested themselves..that's always in my head. Don't get me wrong the thought has NEVER crossed my mind ,but I get uncomfortable around them when I have to bathe them..which is why they learned to do it themselves at a young age.
Answer by Anonymous at 11:19 AM on Jun. 14, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 2:39 PM on Jun. 14, 2011