Last year when I had my son, I wanted a vaginal birth. He was head-up, so my doctor suggested doing a "version" (not sure how to spell it). Basically, they hook you up to monitors and turn the baby over from the outside. It hurt like HELL, and I was bruised for weeks, but it worked and I was able to have a vaginal delivery less than a month later. I had also always wanted to breastfeed, and I did. I have a condition that made it very painful to breastfeed, but I was able to work through the pain and after 2 months it worked itself out and didn't hurt as much, but still hurt. I nursed for 6 mos. then found out we were pregnant again. My son weaned himself, I think because he didn't care for the taste of pregnant lady milk, and was on solid food at 8 mos and did great. Now he is a year old,walking, talking, and very sweet and gentle. I admit it, I do "hover" over him a lot, but he is my first child after all....
My sister and sister-in-law both think that I went for the vaginal delivery just to "look good" (to who, honestly?) My sister had scheduled c-sections with all three of hers, and my sister-in-law thought that having the version done was ridiculous. Both of them bottle-fed all of their kids, and I have NO problem at all with that. But THEY had a problem with my breastfeeding. Once again, they thought I was "showing them up" and acting like it was so hard and so painful just to get more attention for doing it in the first place. I never acted all "holier than thou" over it, but they nagged me all the time about why I thought formula was so bad (I don't, I just wanted to breastfeed!!) I think it made them feel bad about their choice to bottle feed, which they shouldn't. Their kids are all healthy and great and never had any problems. I JUST WANTED TO BREASTFEED!!!! When my son was 4 months old (4 MONTHS OLD!!!!!!) I was breastfeeding him and my sister asked me "Is he still doing that?" like it was disgusting that a 4 month old was still eating what a 4 month old should be eating.....If he were eating from a bottle she never would have said anthing....
Now I have 10 weeks to go until my daughter is born and "here we go again". I have been dealing with depression since about a month ago, and I had PPD after my son was born, which wasn't made any easier by being made to feel like an outsider. I know I'm going to be dealing with the PPD again, and I'm not looking forward to having to listen to the comments from them....Can I just move away until my kids are teens?
Asked by Anonymous at 12:12 PM on Jun. 14, 2011 in General Parenting
Answer by maxsmom11807 at 12:17 PM on Jun. 14, 2011
Answer by SleepingBeautee at 12:22 PM on Jun. 14, 2011
Answer by samurai_chica at 12:24 PM on Jun. 14, 2011
Answer by lambdarose at 12:19 PM on Jun. 14, 2011
Answer by MoversShakers at 12:22 PM on Jun. 14, 2011
Answer by Dahis at 12:22 PM on Jun. 14, 2011
Answer by Rosehawk at 12:44 PM on Jun. 14, 2011
Answer by mkdirector2011 at 12:25 PM on Jun. 14, 2011
Answer by MaryanneMac at 12:28 PM on Jun. 14, 2011
Answer by ochsamom at 12:35 PM on Jun. 14, 2011
Next question overall
How far along can the sex of the baby be deteremine? can it really be...