Kids have a mind of their own, and eating is one of the few things they have any control over. I agree with PP to just offer her a wide variety of healthy foods and let her decide what and when she wants to eat. If she wants to eat whole bowl of peaches (and only peaches) for lunch, okay. If she wants to skip lunch and then only eat string cheese for snack, okay. No pressure. No judgement. It's okay to say, "do you want to eat some potatoes or broccoli?" but if she says no, the answer is no... for now. Kids will eat what they need when they need. As long as whatever you're offering is healthy, and she gets regular meals/snacks, let her decide.
I'd talk to the daycare staff to make sure you agree with the way they are handling meals. If you think she's being tramatized in any way, this needs to be identified and fixed. Or else take her somewhere else.
at 3:22 PM on Jun. 14, 2011