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What should I wear when visiting an Orthodox Jewish family's home?

I just got a weekly child care job watching a toddler whose family is Orthodox Jewish. My supervisor informed me to "dress modestly" when making my weekly visits. Can anyone give me more details? Do I need to wear a skirt? Cover up my elbows? I really have no clue... I have SEEN Orthodox Jewish people in my town so I know how they dress themselves, but I have no clue what I would be expected to wear when I go to their home. CafeMom Moms, you've rescued me before... so I hope you can help me now!!!

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Asked by NickiKidsOnGo at 8:39 PM on Jun. 14, 2011 in Religion & Beliefs

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  • I would say only wear shirts with sleeves and a high neckline, so not to expose too much of your chest and then wear nothing shorter than just above your knees. I don't think they expect you to dress exactly like them, so I think shorts and skirts are fine, as well as jeans. As long as they are all a reasonable length.

    Answer by CJM_SHM at 8:42 PM on Jun. 14, 2011

  • Don't be offended if members of the opposite sex do not shake hands

    Answer by Cafemomoftwo217 at 8:46 PM on Jun. 14, 2011

  • pants and a shirt, normal modest clothing I would say, no plunging necklines or anything above the knee.

    Answer by Princess_s21 at 9:08 PM on Jun. 14, 2011

  • Like CJM_SHM said, just dress modestly. I doubt they expect you to do exactly what they do when it comes to yourself.

    Answer by TARARENEE at 9:20 PM on Jun. 14, 2011

  • I'm surprised your employer didn't give you more detail/you should have asked for more detail.

    Answer by Jazmineamomma at 9:31 PM on Jun. 14, 2011

  • Here's a link to help you understand how and why they dress (women too). I don't think they expect you to dress like them but this will give you an idea what their own dress code is based on. Maybe that will shed some light?
    Hope it helps and I learned something new too!

    Answer by KellyGirl_TX at 11:00 PM on Jun. 14, 2011

  • I wouldn't wear shorts and I'd have my skirts below the knee if I wore one. I'd also wear at least 3/4 length sleeves. Although you needn't dress "frum" (piously) you may not want to go too far, particularly if your employer warned you.

    Answer by jmpj8107 at 12:27 PM on Jun. 15, 2011

  • I can tell you that they would not appreciate you trying to mimic their dress. Don't wear really short shorts or skirts and don't wear plunging necklines or have an exposed midrif. They wouldn't have hired you if they had wanted an Orthodox child care worker.

    Answer by Marwill at 9:34 AM on Jun. 16, 2011

  • I'm an Orthodox Jew and personally, if they hired you, I don't think they expect you to dress according to Jewish law. At least Iwouldn't expect a person that I hired to abide by that if I didn't specify that. As a sign of respect you can dress modeslty i nthe sense that you're not showing cleavage or legs, but I don't think they expect you to cover your hair or wear a skirt. Especially if you're gonna watch a child.
    Personally, I wouldn't mind if a person would ask me if they have to dress in a certain fashion, so that's always a good place to start. "Dress modestly" really has a very different connotation for Orthodox Jews than for mainstream society. I wouldn't expect someone else to know and accomodate my own version od "dressing modestly".


    Answer by momto2boys973 at 9:49 PM on Jun. 19, 2011

  • You should be covered from collar bone to knees and your sleeves should cover your elbows. If you are married, wear a hat or scarf

    Answer by rkoloms at 8:45 PM on Jun. 23, 2011

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