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Love On the Rocks

Hi !

Status : Married for 2 years.
Me : Emotional, Romantic, Affectionate.
Him : Selfish : his pleasure + convenience always come first.

I'm kind of tired emotionally, so my question is:
Would the following thing bother you ?

Yesterday we had a night out.
We visited a nice area with 10 restaurants. At the entrance of 1 place, there was a young girl with very long hair.
My husband said : let's have dinner AT THAT restaurant (he pointed at the girl ). So I asked if this was our only option, as there were 9 more restaurants to consider right there.

Then we went to the cinema: there were two floors; on one floor there were two teenage girls with tiny shorts, and my husband moved towards them - wherever they were going. They walked towards a parking lot, so I laughed and said : what do we do now ? Follow them to their car ?

He's always acted this way : wherever we go, he sits close to the prettiest girl in the room, be it at the gym, at the cinema, etc.

After 2 years, it starts to bother me, and I don't enjoy being with him in public, as I feel he does not appreciate me.

Am I right to feel this ?
Thanks !


Kimigogo :
He's 55, I'm 35.


He has an office job, (non-managerial); I was a Manager and resigned to be with him. 

He is athletic and looks younger than his age, and people say we look like siblings (similar facial features, only he's much heavier than me). 

Yes, I was crazy in love with him. BIG MISTAKE, but it's never too late to make things right.





Asked by Anonymous at 10:15 AM on Jun. 15, 2011 in Relationships

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Answers (11)
  • I wouldn't put up with that. Sounds like he's constantly open the the opportunity to meet someone else. You should leave before he does.

    Answer by momov4kids at 10:17 AM on Jun. 15, 2011

  • OMG you need to leave him he sounds like a disrespectful dog I'm sorry but that is so wrong in so many levels what he is doing, I mean if he does that in your face I can imagine what he does behind your back, It sounds like he'll even cheat on you sorry to say. Leave him girl you don't need a man like that you need a man who is going to respect you & love you truly don't put up with that your better then that.

    P.S. And it's gross that a grown man is checking out teenage girls (not cool)


    Answer by VanillaBlondie8 at 10:26 AM on Jun. 15, 2011

  • What's his problem?! That's really weird and disrespectful. What was he planning on doing once they realized they were being followed by a guy and his wife??
    I'd be pissed at this type of behavior

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 10:20 AM on Jun. 15, 2011

  • What a pig! I'd be upset with him!

    Answer by tspillane at 10:37 AM on Jun. 15, 2011

  • You need to find someone more respectful of you. Problem is porn is all over the place and us women perpetuate it by dressing sexy, watching it with them, even some going to strip clubs with the men. When they find a woman that doesn't put up with that behavior, "there is something wrong with her" and will move on to someone that will. Men need to start treating women like ladies again and not like some $2 hooker that is there just to meet his "needs."

    Answer by attap5 at 10:44 AM on Jun. 15, 2011

  • How old are you and how old is your husband? I only ask because it is kind of creepy to be so interested in teenagers? I think he is really crossing the line, and if he would follow them WITH you there what the heck does he do when your not around? I would pummel any creep who followed my daughter out to the parking lot! I don't know if this can be fixed or not,,,I suggest counseling, but I don't know if that is going to make him appreciate you or not.

    Answer by kimigogo at 10:47 AM on Jun. 15, 2011

  • He's 55 and is he's interested in "young girls" as in teenagers, then I would definitely have a serious issue with this...if using the term "girls" refers to legal age then, I would still be upset but take into consideration, you knew how he was from the begininning and you were accepting then, why has it changed now?

    Answer by mom2mybabes at 11:11 AM on Jun. 15, 2011

  • DH and I will joke with each otehr about his chances with attractive younger people we see, but he'd never follow them or otherwise change our plans if he spotted them when we were out. Your SO gives me the creeps.

    Answer by jmpj8107 at 11:25 AM on Jun. 15, 2011

  • Ykes it is just as I suspected,, I don't want to offend you, but I think the reason he chose you in the first place is that you are so much younger than him,, I think you might be married to a you have kids? I hope you don't have a daughter,, honestly, I think you better research his computer history and stuff, and I wouldn't spend one more minute worrying about him, just take care of yourself. I have had the not so great pleasure of knowing a few men like this, and they just keep wanting younger and younger,, if he hasn't crossed a line, he will, get out while you can!

    Answer by kimigogo at 11:09 AM on Jun. 15, 2011

  • If it has always bothered you why did you marry him? You claim you are in your 30s? You sound VERY immature. If you don't like him or the situation the leave. Point Blank.

    Answer by surfgrl60 at 11:19 AM on Jun. 15, 2011