I am looking for some unbiased thoughts. My husband is doing everything possible to drive me crazy in the house while we are going through a divorce: yes we still live together. He has also been verbally and emotionally abusive for over the past year, in front of our son. I have not been responding to his verbal attacks because I didn't want to make matters worse by fighting in front of our son. But then I hear from my son "Mommy you are a bad mommy...because daddy always yells at you." Now I cant take it anymore and have been fighting back (verbally).
Last night when putting my son to bed, we were of course yelling and srcreaming. My husband believes he "has to" lay in my son's teeny twin bed and lull him to sleep every freaking night. That process takes about an hour. I think it's ridiculous. When I'm home alone with him I put him into bed, read one last book, say I'm stepping out to brush my teeth but will check on him in a few minutes, then when i'm back 5 minutes later my son is asleep. So...we were fighting about how he puts him to bed. About shutting off the light, leaving it on...you know, simply ridiculous stuff. At which point my husband gets up and declares to my son "I'm leaving now...your mommy will put you to bed since she is so smart!" Then our son is in hysterics....my husband comes back screaming at me about how I dont know how to put a child to bed....blah blah. My son goes to sleep with this in his head.
he wakes up not wanting to be around me at all, only wanting his dad. i ask what's wrong. He says "Mommy you scare me." I asked, "Why?" he says, "Because you fight with my daddy." I feel like there is no winning here. He sat and watched TV with his dad this morning, skipped the breakfast I made for him, then got dressed and ready to go. Daddy then gives him 2 girl scout cookies for being "such a good boy this morning." My son is almost 4....and I feel like everything my husband is doing is NOT in the best interest of my son, it's just to drive me nuts. Any advice? I dont want my son growing up hating me, but cow-towing to his every whim is insanity. I think we are agreeing to split our time with him 60/40...with majority of time going to mom. I fear he is going to grow up hating me becuase of regular mom-kinds of things. Like having rules about eating at the table, or feeding him something good to get started for the day.
Asked by Anonymous at 10:37 AM on Jun. 15, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by Candi1024 at 10:41 AM on Jun. 15, 2011
Answer by tspillane at 10:42 AM on Jun. 15, 2011
Answer by other_mother at 10:42 AM on Jun. 15, 2011
You need to get you and your son out of the same house as your ex and take him to a counselor. Your ex is using parental alienation and you need help.
Answer by Alanaplus3 at 10:46 AM on Jun. 15, 2011
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