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How to go about adoption?

independent or through an agency

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Asked by Jctanner at 1:09 PM on Jun. 15, 2011 in Adoption

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  • You can do both to increase your chances!

    Answer by kimigogo at 1:11 PM on Jun. 15, 2011

  • I would suggest going through your county's foster system. It is less expensive and the children are already there waiting for families. Good luck to you and your family.

    Answer by ochsamom at 1:15 PM on Jun. 15, 2011

  • It depends on the route you choose...
    Foster adopt is usually a minimal fee if any. It is through your county/state. Some children already have TPR and others do not. The ages range from newborn to 18 in most states.
    DIA- you can go through an attorney or agency
    IA- Agency
    Embryo- Agency

    It really just depends on which route you choose... we adopted internationally so we were required to use an agency as China does not allow anyone to adopt unless it is through an agency they have on their approval list.

    Answer by mcginnisc at 2:21 PM on Jun. 15, 2011

  • If you are looking for an infant, you should try to do both. You have a lot more options if you are willing to adopt an older child.

    Answer by JSD24 at 10:29 AM on Jun. 17, 2011

  • I say go through an anency so you will be covered

    Answer by 1sexymother at 3:11 PM on Jun. 24, 2011

  • I would avoid independent adoption like the plague. However you really do need to look at all of your options and choose the one that best suits you. Go to to learn about all of the different programs and approaches. Do not use, they are shady and operate by profit motive only without a solid background in adoption. They take ads from ANYONE and dont' have professionals writing their articles.

    Answer by Suzy_Sunshine at 11:07 AM on Jun. 27, 2011

  • We were tried BOTH! But we were successful with the private adoption (2) through a local attorney. Women contact him that are interested in giving their child up for adoption. Also he has his name in at the local hospitals, churches, county offices, dr. offices, etc. We were very lucky and pleased with both of our legal processes. One is semi-open we met the birthmom 3 months before the birth (I send letters a couple times a year & we have a full birth-family history), the 2nd was a total surprise (no contact, have no family history). We couldn't have asked for more wonderful kids. It's all been a wonderful blessing for us. I hope you have the same success which every route you choose. But keep both options open!

    Answer by farmmom49 at 9:48 AM on Jul. 6, 2011

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