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If the doctors could tell that your baby had something wrong with it & said it would die soon....

Would you rather it die right after birth or when it was a toddler?
Of course no one would want either, but Im just wondering because of the strong bonds that are developed.


Asked by Anonymous at 2:33 PM on Jun. 15, 2011 in Parenting Debate

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Answers (21)
  • i would want to lose the baby at birth even though i would want the baby to live as long as possible i think it would be better then have to watch the baby suffer and what kind of life that would be. i would just hold the baby as much and as long as possible.

    Answer by lambdarose at 9:33 AM on Jun. 16, 2011

  • I don't think either would be any better or worse. It would be a tragedy to loose a child at any age...

    Answer by But_Mommie at 2:34 PM on Jun. 15, 2011

  • I would not choose either one and would have to accept that it was gods will either way...

    Answer by jorjiegirl at 2:35 PM on Jun. 15, 2011

  • a baby...that way you will morn them yes,but you really don't know them so you won;t have certain things you wil miss about your child on top of just missing them in general.

    Answer by happymama02 at 2:35 PM on Jun. 15, 2011

  • Toddler. I'd take every moment I could get.

    Answer by onethentwins at 2:46 PM on Jun. 15, 2011

  • Part of me says, "right after birth" that way I wouldn't have to live knowing that the end was coming.
    The other part says, "toddler" because I would cherish every single second with them.

    It would be unimaginable pain either way. I have had 2 miscarriages and I unfortunately can remember the pain of those, there is no "right" or easy answer here.

    Answer by kfroz0415 at 2:50 PM on Jun. 15, 2011

  • Birth :(

    Answer by maxsmom11807 at 2:34 PM on Jun. 15, 2011

  • either way it is a horrible experience I have had a miscarriage and a still birth and neither is fun but I think it would be even worse if you had the child and then they pass on as a toddler.

    Answer by Christmaslver68 at 2:36 PM on Jun. 15, 2011

  • this is sick

    Answer by ochsamom at 2:36 PM on Jun. 15, 2011

  • I dont know cuz in my eyes it god who makes the call

    Answer by apeyhen at 2:51 PM on Jun. 15, 2011