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Who's to blame?

Say theres a guy who has 2 kids from a previous relationship. He ends up with someone else but they only have one kid. He feels that since he doesnt father his prior kids he shouldnt have any more kids. His wife blames the first childrens mother for crushing her dreams of having a large family. Does she have reason to blame the first mother if she is the main reason the father plays no role in the first childrens lives? (shes fearful that if her husband and the first childrens mother start to talk they will get back together even after they have been together 4 almost 5 yrs so he has no contact with the children at all )

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Asked by Anonymous at 5:36 PM on Jun. 15, 2011 in Relationships

Answers (4)
  • Why are we placing blame on any one person? Personally I believe that all the adults are to blame. As far as the second wife: Conversations of family, and having children should always be disscussed before you get married let alone have a child with someone. Everyone ( especially her) should know what they are getting into before they commit.

    Answer by JNLmomme09 at 5:41 PM on Jun. 15, 2011

  • He's to blame. He's an adult. He's the father to those children and should be involved in their lives no matter what.

    Answer by meooma at 5:46 PM on Jun. 15, 2011

  • I find it sad he would stay with an insecure person and not see his kids. The woman has made her own bed and should only be mad at herself for the situation she is in. He is smart to not have children with her but stupid to not see his kids for her. Poor kids and poor ex wife.

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:46 PM on Jun. 15, 2011

  • His parents are to blame for not instilling decent values in their son! Seriously, what kind of person goes around procreating and not caring for his children properly? Also, the second woman knew he had kids he doesn't take care of yet she chose to have a kid with him, she's not the sharpest tool in the shed either.

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:34 AM on Jun. 16, 2011

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