When me and my DH had just started dating I offered a ride to a guy I had a relationship with in HS. He saw me at a book store and was trying to get to WalMart, since it was 100 degrees outside and he was a bike I agreed to take to him to WalMart. After the trip to WM, he asked if I wanted to eat at Chili's because he was hungry. I didn't really want to, but I was pretty starving so I agreed if we paid for our own food and if he would leave me alone afterwards. I had just moved in with my DH at the time and needed to go back to his apartment to get money. I told my ex to stay outside of the apartment because I didn't want to disrespect my DH by inviting him in. While I was getting my money, he came into the room. I yelled at him to get out and tried to get past him to leave..hoping he would follow. Instead he pushed me on the bed and pinned me down. He knew that I couldn't stand to be pinned down and would freak out..in turn doing anything he asked to get him off of me. He told me if I put his penis in my mouth for a few seconds he would get off. I told him no and tried to fight him, but he was three tiems my size..eventually I gave in because I was about to have a panic attack. I told my DH everything that had happened..he said he believed me, but later I found out that he really didn't. We stayed together and got married. This all happened 3 years ago.
A few weeks ago I caught my DH chatting with women on Yahoo Messenger trying to get pictures of them to jack off to since I'm pg and don't really feel like having sex much(I'm in my 3rd trimester and miserable..bad round ligament pain and back pain). He said that he hadn't had chat sex or webcammed with anyone..yet. He had only been doing it for a week before I caught him.
When I confronted him he threw what I had done 3 years ago in my face and said that I had cheated on him, so I couldn't be mad at him for cheating on me(he used the word cheating, not me).
When my situation happened with my ex, me and my DH were just in a casual relationship..I was leaving in less than 2 months to join the Navy(which ended up not happening), and thought that our relationship would end then and never go anywhere..which is what he thought too. The only reason he asked me to move in was because he didn't know how to cook and wanted available vagina, and I agreed because I needed to get away from my mother. When he talked to these women and fantasized about them we were in a committed relationship. We had starting building a life together, and had children together. I just don't think that the two situation compare. I know what I did was wrong..I should have never agreed to giving an ex a ride, but at least I told him what had happened and didn't try to hide it from him like he was doing to me.
Should I feel as crappy as I do? I have felt terrible about what happened for 3 years now, and now it keeps getting thrown in my face I feel even worse. My DH has me feeling like I shouldn't have gotten mad at him for chatting and that if I would just have sex with him none of that would have happened..so everything seems to be fault.
Sorry for such a long post..just need to know what outsiders think of this.
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