my husband is disabled and has been depressed for sometime because of it. I recently found out that he was involved with a woman online that lives in another state. He had told her that he wanted to marry her and she was actually planning a wedding with him, never having met him. They had only been talking for one month. I was very hurt and my husband and I talked it out and he said he was really depressed about his situation and since he couldnt do anything but lie in bed and play online, he felt really alone. I admit that I had really only been attending to his physical needs, like cooking for him and taking care of our kids and house, basically I have to do everything right now so I really wasnt paying attention to our relationship like I should have. He told me he had no intention of leaving me, he loved me and that he was basically just seeing how far this chick would go with this before she demanded to meet. He seriously would not be able to meet her as he is bedridden right now, and she didnt know that. I read all the messages back and forth from them, Facebook keeps all the messages and they didnt know it..we deleted his account and I messaged her and told her the truth. She told me she had no idea that he was married and that she would blovk him from contact. I found out that she had set him up with the FB account (it was different from hjis real one, they were the only ones on it) and I saw she had set him up with a hotmail account. I asked him for the password and he said he didnt know it, she never gave it to him and he never used it, it was just to set up the FB account. So we have been working on our relationship, spending more time together and I realized how neglected he was, lying back in the bedroom all alone while life went on in the rest of the house. NOT THAT THIS EXCUSED WHAT HE DID! but he did apologize and like I said , we have been working on it...now for my question...he just had surgery the other day and while I was in the hospital with him, I had my laptop and I was really bored, so I figured out the password to the email account and snooped in that, basically it was all the FB messages but there was one message that didnt show up on FB and that was where she messaged him and told him I had sent her a friend request. So she did know he was married...and that pissed me off. I would never hold the other woman to blame if she didnt know the guy was married, but if she knows then she is just as much to blame as he is...so I go snooping for info on her and I find her real FB page and it has all these references to Jesus and how much she loves God, how active she is in her church and her is the kicker,she WORKS at her church as the secretary.. So this God fearing woman who proclaims to be a Christian KNEW she was fucking around with a married man and was planning a wedding with him. I want to call the pastor of her church and let him know what kind of person he has working for him...I really do....I know I shouldnt...and I need someone to tell me not to...this was over a month ago, my husband was not even upset that they were "broken up" he was sad that he had hurt me and we are getting along better, but it just PISSES me off that she KNEW, LIED and pretends to be Sister Christain....
Asked by Anonymous at 3:39 AM on Jun. 16, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by emmyandlisa at 8:46 AM on Jun. 16, 2011
Answer by Sarah961 at 3:45 AM on Jun. 16, 2011
Answer by MamaAlice54 at 3:54 AM on Jun. 16, 2011
Answer by carol00 at 4:23 AM on Jun. 16, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 4:27 AM on Jun. 16, 2011
Answer by GrammytoTrin at 4:34 AM on Jun. 16, 2011
This is manipulative where the cheater or in his case emotional cheater blames the other person I think its time for some therapy for you two and counseling for your marriage
Answer by pinkdragon36 at 4:42 AM on Jun. 16, 2011
Answer by HollyBoBolly at 5:27 AM on Jun. 16, 2011
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