Morning ladies.. I hope that someone is maybe going through or has already gone through this.. I got pregnant with my son and my boyfriend didn't want me to keep him.. I had two children already and I knew that I couldn't and won't give him up. We are not together.. But when my son was 6 months old I got together with a great guy.. He and I got married.. My son thinks he's his bio logical father but he is his dad in a sense.. I would like to tell him but I just don't know how to explain it to him.. I have tried writing a letter so I can read from that but every time I read it to myself it sounds stupid and more confusing to me.. His bio logical father has not seen him or even contracted him.. He is 8 now.. He does send in child support when he feels like it.. But that doesn't matter right now.. My husband gives him so much love and I don't want that to end or hurt either one of them.. I know that I should tell him but not sure it it's the right time.. I could use alot of help.. Thanks Ladies..
Um, that is a tough one. Here is how I would explain it. I would never use the term real when discussing either of your son's father's for starters. They're both real and have both made him into the child he is today and that should be respected. I would explain that there is more than one way to be a dad and that he simply has two father's. What you say after that depends on a few things. Is the biological father now wanting involvement? Is your husband wanting to adopt him? Does the child want to see his other father? Explain that he is loved and answer any questions honestly and openly, provide pictures of biological father if your child wants them (if available) Also don't say negative things about the bio father but don't lie to your son either. Good luck!
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