I am 20 years young with a 16 month old. I am currently living with my mother and boyfriend in one side of a duplex. I do get state benefits for food stamp and cash assistance and will continue to collect for the next 2 years and through the state financial help my son and I are taken care of... food, rent ect.
My mother is an addict and recently started using again. Just last night I heard through my sons monitor his fan shut off and someone talking, so immediately i went upstairs to find my mom SOO messed up and naked in his room. She had picked him up out of his crib and put him on the floor, when i RAN upstairs, i found him and her on the floor with the light on (2:00 am) and my son was just about an inch from sticking his fingers into the enormous metal fan. needless to say, i put him back to bed and yelled at her. She gets so messed up she doesnt even know what she is doing at the time, tottally gone. there is no lock on his door and she is the room next to him, although no worries i pay close attention to the monitor.
The day before yesterday she was playing with him, and he fell from our kitchen table ON HIS FACE and got a bloody nose. at this point I am absolutly through with letting him be around her but unfortunately we live together and there is only so much i can do. My boyfriend (his father) ABSOLUTELY HATES my mother and yells at me about it like i should have control over her. SHES 50 years old. I have no friends whatsoever, not one and no one in my family that would be willing to take me in. My boyfriend and I have an awful relationship and everyday it only gets worse. I am alone and sad.
6 months ago my 16 year old little brother passed in a car accident and just shortly after in march of this year my father passed away drinking himself to death. I have no money in the bank to get up and move, and no current job seeing as i have to pay close attention to him in my own home, i dont feel safe leaving him there with a babysitter who has no grasp on this major concern.
I dont know what to do. I am at an all time breaking point. I will push on for my son because that is my duty as a mother and he means the world to me but.... If i can't even take care of myself with all of this going on, it makes it extremely difficult to take care of him.
Mind you, the father has an anger problem so leaving my son with him is of no good use either. HELP???
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