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New to the step parent business

Help... any information would be helpful. kind of winging it.
step daughter and my son don't get along.

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Asked by llong02 at 11:34 AM on Jun. 17, 2011 in Teens (13-17)

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  • Try to find activities that they could both participate in if close to the same age. From what I've seen about the whole step-parent/step-child thing is you can't force it or rush it. It will happen eventually. Just make things neutral and fun for both.

    Answer by Bugzmomma at 11:39 AM on Jun. 17, 2011

  • Sit them both down together and let them know they are now family. Although you do not expect them to get along all the time, or even love each other at first, let them know they are siblings and they protect each other. Let them know how grateful they should be that they now have a brother/sister. Start conversations with them, music, friends, school, things that kids are into nowadays. They may find that they have a lot of things in common. Right now they see the other as a predator. You were your son's mother and now you get a daughter, he doesn't want to share. Same with your SD. Sit and play games as a family. When they realize that the other isn't trying to steal the parent away from them, things will calm down.

    Answer by attap5 at 11:47 AM on Jun. 17, 2011

  • Since you put this in the teen section, I am assuming they are teens. They are not brother and sister, their parents just got married to each other. That doesn't mean they have to like each other. They don't like each other, that's probably for the best, as long as they aren't wanting to date each other lol

    Answer by JLS2388 at 3:30 PM on Jun. 17, 2011

  • As a matter of fact, yes they are family. Just as their parents are now spouses. They are step siblings, and that is family. That doesn't men they have to always get along, but they do need to see the other as a family member. It takes time.

    Answer by martine1778 at 12:47 AM on Jun. 18, 2011

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