My boyfriend and I are expecting our first child around Thanksgiving. I have severe anxiety and depression and it scares him and he questions whether or not we will mentally be able to be parents. He also feels that a lot of the stuff that's been affecting me is starting to affect him, causing him to be unstable, which has never happened to him before. He doesn't feel that this is the best thing for us right now because of us both being unstable. He DOES want our relationship and DOES want our baby, but he's just so unsure. We feel like we should think about adoption and wait until we're both mentally stable because we're scared of it turning into a broken home. I need to know what your boyfriends/husbands think and if they have any advice from their point of view (or your point of view) from dealing with life with kids and a mom who has anxiety/depression and a dad who may have symptoms...
Answer by MommyYeoman at 8:32 PM on Jun. 17, 2011
Answer by meooma at 8:34 PM on Jun. 17, 2011
If you and your baby's father see warning signs of problems now before your baby is born then it means you have time to get some help before you are parents. Look into mental health services available to help you deal with your anxiety and depression. Show your SO that you can reach out for help in order to be a healthy family. I'm sorry you're going through a hard time but there is help for you. Good luck!
Answer by Luuckymommy at 8:48 PM on Jun. 17, 2011
Answer by Kellyjude1 at 9:28 PM on Jun. 17, 2011
When not pregnant are you med and therapy compliant ?When on your meds are they effective ?Generally speaking if your meds were effective before pregnancy they will be effective after pregnancy.There will need to be med management by your m..d.to keep your meds at optimal level during postpartum hormone changes.Here is an idea I suffered from postpartum depression not psychosis and my o.b.gyn and psychiatrist started me on hormones the day after I gave birth.Then over the next 4 to 6 weeks stepped down the hormone level.This helped tremendously with my most severe depression.It was partly triggered by the huge quick drop in hormones immediately postpartum.The gradual decline with med management was a great help.I take anti-depressants daily and have for many ,many years.I find having children to help me stay med compliant.Wonderful motivation
Answer by drfink at 9:51 PM on Jun. 17, 2011
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