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How do I get a 3 year old to mind ?

He will not play with antthing more than a few minutes, runs out of the park when taken there, lets all the water out of the pool. then trys to get out of the back yard.

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Asked by Anonymous at 8:34 PM on Jun. 17, 2011 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • Children misbehave for 1 of 3 reasons. They might have a need that isn't being met (hungry, thirsty, tired, lonely). They might lack information or maturity (They either don't understand the rule, or are too young to obey the rule). And finally, they might be under too much stress to think clearly. Try to discern which of these causes is the root of your child's problem, and you'll find the solution. It's easy to tell if a three-year-old is hungry or thirsty, but not so easy to know if he is feeling under- or over stimulated, or lonely, or feels like he doesn't belong. Does he need more love, respect, exercise or stimulation? Ask your child is he knows what he did was wrong? Ask him to explain his behavior. If he doesn't understand the rule, you'll need to explain it to him in a way he can understand. Finally, find healthy ways to have him release stress, if you feel that is the major cause.

    Answer by LoreleiSieja at 9:11 PM on Jun. 17, 2011

  • He sounds like he simply has a short attention span. I see nothing wrong with his curiosity and letting out the water to the pool. He's just seeing how it works. If he wants out of the yard then take him. Hold his hand if he runs off and explain the dangers of running off. He's three. He's curious and adventurous without knowing the realization of danger. That's normal. Just teach him. It will take time and you will have to repeat yourself often. That's normal too. He's learning.

    Answer by admckenzie at 5:01 AM on Jun. 18, 2011

  • Lead by example and play with him and be consistent and reasonable in your expectations...eventually, he'll get it (either by your efforts, or by the virtue of greater understanding and maturity, from watching my kids, I'm never really sure which)!

    Answer by thalassa at 8:14 AM on Jun. 18, 2011

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