My parents divorced when I was 6. My mother put my father through hell, and always made it difficult for us to see him. My siblings and I would see him every other weekend for a couple of years, but then he moved to another state, and we saw him less and less. I haven't seen my dad since I was 17, I'm 20 now. Last time I saw him he was in the hospital, and he didn't even know I was there, but he remembered my brothers being there.
I don't know what happened between my father and I but, we use to be really close. When I was a kid, I got a lot of attention from him, and he was my dad. Now, its like...I'm not even there. I try talking to him, and stuff, probably more than my brothers do, but he still just doesn't show any love.
I got into a car accident while 8 months pregnant, and being RH negative, that can be dangerous for the baby. I sent him an email about it, and he didn't respond for 2 days and even then, I had to call him and ask him if he got my email. He said "oh yeah I got it." No, are you alright, or is the baby ok.
He didn't even come to my wedding, which we postponed so that he could be there. He said it was because he didn't have enough money. But just 2 weeks later, he was able to go visit my brothers who live in oregon. (My dad lives in Nevada, and I'm in California). So he could go visit them, but he couldn't come to his ONLY daughters wedding.
I don't get it. and when I try talking to him on facebook, like through IM, every now and then he'll say hi back, but most of the time, I send him a message and he doesn't respond and just logs off.
I mean, he really showed no concern at all for me getting into a car accident.
I just feel like he gives more attention to my brothers than he does to me.
I usually get him a fathers day gift every year, but this year, I'm just not even going to bother.
What can I do to make him just show me some kind of love, or should I just say fuck it and forget about it and just not even try anymore? It hurts every time I get ignored, and I just can't really take it anymore.
Answer by Melbornj at 11:19 PM on Jun. 17, 2011
Answer by Kword at 11:41 PM on Jun. 17, 2011
Talk to him sweetie, tell him exactly how you feel ask him why is he acting like this with you when you were his little princess, why does he only give more attention to your brothers & treats you like if you don't exist, tell him how that hurts you. If after you talk to him he still keeps being like that then just fuck it & don't talk to him anymore unless he looks for you. It's not fair how he is treating you that isn't right sorry hunny =(
Answer by VanillaBlondie8 at 11:45 PM on Jun. 17, 2011
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