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IDK what to do anymore.... please pray for us

I went out of town to help my mother on this job. I was making some extra money we desperately needed. During that time my husband was supposed to have paid the bills. I get home today, to find a notice on my door. A " 3 day notice to vacate property " I can't believe this crap! we are getting evicted! All because my DA husband decided that paying the rent was not a top priority. His logic.... I spent the money to get get some parts for my car. When I realized I didn't have enough money for my student loan payment, and it was about to default. So I decided the rent could wait and I would spend the rent money on my student loan. Now we are out of an place to stay, all because of his obsession with his stupid car!! I have had it! This is the last straw!!! I can't believe this sh*t!! I am so worried I am absolutely sick to my stomach. I just want to puke but I can't. I don't know what to do. I don't understand this sh*t. He is still like, its not the priority right now. He is telling me we don't have to worry about it right now. WTH are we supposed to worry about?! We have 2 young children, and we are about to be out on the streets. How can we not worry about it. G*D I am so pissed of right now. That doesn't even begin to describe how I am feeling right now. I am just so sick right now. I am trying to keep myself from having a panic attack. I am trying so hard not to panic. He thinks we can talk to the manager tomorrow and see if we can't work things out. He put a check in the drop off box yesterday, before we got this notice. So he thinks that will clear it up. Because the eviction notice says we still ow them the rent. But IDK. I am just hoping and praying we would be able to work this out with the manager. Please pray for us. As for him and me, IDK if I can take this any longer. I just can't take the stress anymore. It is making me so sick, and depressed. I don't know if I can live through this, I feel like I am going to have a stroke one day because of all this crap he has put us through, due to his immaturity and inability to prioritize. I just don't know anymore.

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Asked by Anonymous at 1:05 AM on Jun. 18, 2011 in Relationships

Answers (17)
  • what state do you live in? some states allow for the family to stay longer in the home through the evicting process.

    Answer by takes_a_village at 1:08 AM on Jun. 18, 2011

  • I live in texas. The notice says we have until the 20th to vacate though. We have not received a notice prior to this though, I thought they had to go to court or something. But IDK.

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 1:11 AM on Jun. 18, 2011

  • I know what you are going through. You'll be in my prayers. Please keep yourself calm for your kids and then figure out what to do.

    Answer by Ashoonik at 1:11 AM on Jun. 18, 2011

  • I feel for you, he needs to get his priority's straight and it is not his car. It is food in your belly, a roof over your head and clothes on your back. Sounds childish to me, yuck...

    I wish you the best and pray you can figure something out.

    Answer by KFree907 at 1:16 AM on Jun. 18, 2011

  • Yikes! That is awful he would spend money on his car. What was he thinking there?

    Usually, you can strike up an agreement with the property manager. They usually give you those notices to force you to pay. I have had to apply for those awful payday loans in the past to sometimes make ends meet.

    Do you have any family that could help you out?

    Answer by Gingerwheel at 1:19 AM on Jun. 18, 2011

  • Thank you guys for your prayers. I just wish I didn't feel so sick. My stomach hurts so bad. I just want to throw up, and its so hard to breath. I just want everything to be OK. I just want to hide at this point and to wish everything to be OK.

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 1:19 AM on Jun. 18, 2011

  • Gingerwheel- no family or friends. We live out of my home state, so that he could get this job. Just the other day he found out they were going to be laying people off. So I have been doing my best to find a decent job around my area. But now that this is happening, IDK what to do. We might not have a place to go in a couple days. This is all just screwed up right now.

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 1:23 AM on Jun. 18, 2011

  • It's just one bas news after the other.

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 1:24 AM on Jun. 18, 2011

  • I bet he feels like an idiot now! Where im from there are shelters for women one being YWCA. Im sorry you are going through this. Ill be praying for you

    Answer by suzzanna at 1:25 AM on Jun. 18, 2011

  • Sheesh! He is just sitting in the living room like nothing is going on. How can he do that. He is acting like its every other day, nothing to worry about. Nothings going on. Just sitting in there watching Tv and laughing. He's asking me why am I so upset with him and why I won't join him. WTH! I just don't get this! He is severely pissing me off, and I need him to leave me alone right now, before I explode, because I am at my boiling point, I might say something I will regret. How the he** is he acting so cool about this?

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 1:32 AM on Jun. 18, 2011

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