I am divorced and have an 11 year old son. I am also remarried with 2 SS (ages 9 and 12) and a one year old DD (finally lol). Anyway my son goes to his dad's house EOW. His dad is remarried to a woman who has 3 children (7, 11, and 13). Now while he is there he is expected to do chores, believe me, I have no problem with that, my SS do chores at my house while they are with us. But they divide all the weekly chores by 4, each getting 1/4th then when my son isn't there but it is time for one of his chores, the Sk take turns doing his but they get to assign him one of their chores to do while he is there. For example say it's his day to do the bathroom (when he isn't even there to mess it up) one of the SK will do it and then assign him their bathroom chore while he is there. So he ends up doing chores all weekend long because each kid gets about an hour to 2 hours worth of chores a day so my son is doing everyone's chores while he is there. The only household thing the SM does is cook dinner and all my ex handles is the lawn so everything else is up to the kids. Now, we get my SS EOW and one day during the week during the school year and half the week each week during the summer, when my SS are here, they do an equal amount of chores as my son but they are not expect to catch up on chores they didn't do while they weren't here, that's not their fault plus why would they be expected to clean when they aren't here to make a mess. I have talked to my ex and he says his wife handles the household so unless I would like to call CPS, he is not changing anything. I am thinking about talking to my son and telling him that he will one hours worth of chores a day while there but that is it. They can't MAKE him do chores, and he said "what are they going to do, send me to my room? (he sleeps on the couch there lol). Is it fair for me to tell my son he doesn't have to do these chores? I do believe in letting the other household run as they want but this is ridiculousAnswer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 10:09 AM on Jun. 18, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by treynlisa at 10:14 AM on Jun. 18, 2011
Answer by sailorwifenmom at 10:16 AM on Jun. 18, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 10:17 AM on Jun. 18, 2011
Answer by sailorwifenmom at 10:20 AM on Jun. 18, 2011
You are talking about YOUR SON and the way you see the unfairness of the chore division established by the SM at his dad's house right? I'd speak up LOUDLY AND OFTEN. If I've understood the question correctly then your son is doing and cleaning wayyyyy too much for things he hasn't contributed any kind of mess to. That's wrong, it's now not a chore it's cheap labor and I would have a real problem with anyone treating my child like that.
Answer by meooma at 10:21 AM on Jun. 18, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 10:24 AM on Jun. 18, 2011
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