well lets see, this morning I was trying to feed my toddlers breakfast and ty threw his cheerios all over the floor so I said "ok you can be done" and took him out and put him in the family room and cleaned up the cheerios. yeah my tone was firm because I was insanely frustrated.
when my mom is stressed out and irritated I get hella stressed because I'm afraid if my kids whine she will freak out and complain about it, so I get very stressed when shes like that.
so she proceeded to tell me I needed to back off, and I'm a nazi, I could have just taken the cheerios and given him something else. and then that its my tone, and how I say things. I'm like, well you use a tone sometimes too so dont act like i'm the only person in the world that ever gets frustrated. sorry, IMO I'm allowed to get frustrated sometimes- natural human emotion-
So she takes over feeding them breakfast, giving them whatever she thinks they should eat. they've been eating cinnomin toast for breakfast for the past 9 months because she makes it and gives it to them. (sometimes I'm not home for breakfast though, because I have been taking morning classes all year and she babysits them for me) I would really rather they didn't eat sugar for breakfast but I feel like I can't change it because she will critiize me (when I tried to give them cottage cheese for the first time, they thought it was yogurt so right away decided they didnt like it and cried for a few minutes-then finally ate it but the whole time she was bitching that I should give them something they will actually instead of that "crap")
I can't move out right now for a lot of reasons, mainly because I can't afford it. secondly because i feel like if i tried to even bring up moving out it would turn into a big fight, its like she wants me here but she doesn't want me here. if i got an apartment and said i was moving out she would freak out and I really think I would have to call the cops so I culd be able to take my stuff but since its her house Im afraid that i wouldn't be able to take anything out of it
but its like, I need some of it, like my kids clothes, beds, my clothes, my safe,
plus if i move out without her support she will take my car. its in her name, the loan is in her name, i just give her $300 cash for it every month for the payment (this started when i was 17-if i had known then what i know now I never would have agreed to the arrangement)
idk if I could handle two toddlers without a car... i know its possible but, idk
idk i'm just sick of being told what to do like, I'm 12 and I need direction as to how to raise my kids. she wont just let me fucking BE.
Answer by missanc at 11:49 AM on Jun. 18, 2011
Answer by virginiamama71 at 12:17 PM on Jun. 18, 2011
Answer by calliesmommie at 7:04 PM on Jun. 18, 2011