My 18 yer old daughter recently graduated high school and is currently working nearly full-time. She has been saying she is moving out this summer with 2 friends that I know are smoking marijuana and drinking. I also know that she is engaging in these behaviors also. Now she has decided to get all tatted up and wants to pose nude for something called the SuicideGirls. They are basically alternative pin up girls doing modelling online as well as actually some engagements. I agreed to allow her to have one tattoo while living here at home but I've told her she will have to move out if she wants to have more tattoos and especially pose nude. I am devastated by this. She really is a very sweet girl but her father is dead and her self esteem is so low at this time in her life. I hate to make her move out and push her away and into more of this inappropriate behavior that she and friends (smoking & drinking) are doing! Please help.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 11:53 AM on Jun. 18, 2011 in Adult Children (18+)
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Answer by Dkhilly at 12:14 PM on Jun. 18, 2011
There is nothing wrong with tattoos, not one single thing. They ARE art.
I have seen the Suicide Girls. They are each very beautiful in their own way and kudos to your daughter for being secure enough with herself and her body to want to pose for them. Unlike with Playboy or Penthouse, Suicide Girls are not sexual, it is art.
She is an adult now and yes, you are worried, but if you don't stop hovering and trying to control her, you WILL loose her.
Answer by SpiritedWitch at 12:20 PM on Jun. 18, 2011
well mom she's 18 she's gonna do things you don't like...and the more you openly try to enforce your rules and opinion on her the more she will rebel. but there is an up side to this sometime we have to let our children fall so we can be there for them when they are trying to get back up again. have you tried talking to her on an adult level about why she wants to do this... not from a mom's stand point and non-judgemental? maybe you should ask the question what are the meanings behind the tattoo's most people have very personal reasons for getting tattoo's they have nothing to do with the fact that you told her no... making her move out or anything else will just cause things to get worse between you two. how long ago did her father pass away? did she receive counseling for her lose? she may be using drugs to self medicate. and the modeling could be for many reasons ... your just gonna have to talk to her and find out.
Answer by traren at 12:21 PM on Jun. 18, 2011