My kids, and the kids that I am watching are constantly fighting over cups and bowls. There is no 'favorite" cup, but every day, every meal, there is fight over who got what color cup or bowl. And it has lead to several spills, and me being very pissy. I set the rule that if you complain about the cup you were give, or you give a cocky attitude because you got a certain cup or bowl, you will be excused from the table and will sit in time out. Well, its not working. I'm tempted to either excuse those who complain or cock and attitude will be sent to time out till AFTER everyone is done eating, then they can eat by themselves. Or I'm also tempted to just excuse them from the table all together and they will loose their food till next meal. The fighting has got so bad that I spend most of my time managing the kids, and I end up skipping meals because I don't get a chance to sit and eat.
And no, I cannot afford to go through all of my dishes and replace them all with matching ones. I do have a nice matching set of glass dishes, but the kids eat off of plastic plates and cups that are assorted colors. And I can't even just give everyone one color each because no matter who gets what color, I can't please everyone.
I think you should excuse the misbehaving ones until everyone is finished eating, then let them eat alone until they can decide to use the stuff they were given. As they said in my daughter's school, "You get what you get and you don't throw a fit."
Answer by banana-bear at 2:14 PM on Jun. 18, 2011
I honestly don't think you should cater to the kids to give them all matching plates, bowls, cups, etc. They need to learn the LIFE LESSON that they can't always get what they want. Buying them additional stuff will teach them nothing except that if they make enough noise and aggravate you enough, they will win.
Answer by banana-bear at 2:19 PM on Jun. 18, 2011
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Answer by tootoobusy at 2:08 PM on Jun. 18, 2011
Sorry, I was writing my response as you posted. Glad to see you have a good head on your shoulders :o)
Answer by banana-bear at 2:20 PM on Jun. 18, 2011
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