So yesterday on of my neighbors/friends asked me to watch her kids after our 1/2 day of school. It was a last minute thing, she needed help, so I said, of course. Her mom (who I talked to) originally told me she'd be getting home at 4:30 - the usual time is 7 - 7:30 PM. When I talked to my friend, she said "Oh, I said I could get home by then if I had to." I let her know that my son had a game at 5 PM & that we had dinner plans w/ friends after the game, so that I would either need to drop the kids off w/ her husband at 4:50 or he would need to pick them up at the playing fields as I couldn't drive them home when she got there. She said she'd let her husband know, but seemed a little hesititant.
So, I'm driving the kids to the game, & as I pass their house, I see her husband's car in the driveway. I call the house, get no answer, but I leave a message asking him to call me. I don't hear from him, so when the game is called for weather at 6:15, I call again - no answer. So, I called the wife, who was driving home from about 40 minutes away. She said "Oh, he's probably taking a nap & turned off the phone." I explained that my dinner plans were now pushed forward & asked what she wanted me to do - take the kids to the restaurant w/ me, what? She said, "Just have them go in the house, I'll be home soon - they know not to wake their dad up when he's sleeping." I asked if she was sure, that I wanted to make sure they'd be OK. She said that the kids would wake him up if they really needed him.
I took the kids into the house (no sign of dad), left the older one w/ my cell # & told him to call me if anything went wrong, including them just being nervous & that I would be back in just a few minutes. Please no bashing, as I have been beating myself up for dropping them off at all. I called the mom again at 6:45 & she had gotten home & picked them up.
I saw her this morning because I forgot I had some of the kids' stuff in my car. She barely said thanks & said nothing about her jerk of a husband.
I like these kids, & if the mom is stuck at work, clearly dad isn't going to look after them. I don't want her to not ask me for another favor, as I don't want them to have to be basically alone w/ their sleeping father. But, I don't want to get put in this position again.
Answer by ItsHalfFull at 5:41 PM on Jun. 18, 2011
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