Hopefully this is in the right category...
My mind has been in a bit of a whirlwind the last few days.
After each of us taking our turns with car trouble and finally picking his up after two weeks, SO & I went to renew our lease Thursday and the guy at the office asked if the children were living with us. "uh, yeah" SO answered. "Since when?" he replied. "since we moved in." (2 years ago). He suddenly says that's illegal. Now, we have 3 children & we're in a 2 bedroom. But with a bunk bed and a toddler bed they're fine. It's a spacious place and we're pretty comfortable. He said he's never dealt with this and would have to call his manager to find out what can be done. I asked if they have other properties we could transfer to since we've been tenants for 2 years. He didn't know. He called back within 5 minutes, says we can't stay and we'd have to do our research with calling their other properties to check if they have 3 BR availability, but the application and deposit process would be starting over. And, we had to give a written notice that we would be terminating our lease.
A few things I find messed up with this: 1- if they say we can't renew the lease, why do WE have to give a written notice.
2- we've been here 2 years! That means we renewed last year and we obviously filled out papers to move in the year before. NOW you say we can't be here?!
3- after checking the website where we live, we saw the regular rate for our unit size is about $200 more than what we're currently paying. When we moved in 2 years ago, there was a special and the annual increase has only been $10 each year. Could they be wanting us out to get that higher rate?
Since we weren't expecting to move yet, and we both had major car repairs, we wouldn't have any upfront money for security deposit yet, at least not 3 months worth like most places ask.
Ok, decision wise- I have two opportunities so far. A friend has offered a 3-4 BR apartment & salon with flexible deposit that's about 45 min from where we currently are. Good for me (I'd work out of salon downstairs), bad for SO w/ 45 minute/36 mile commute. It's also more city-like, we're currently more suburban.
After looking at the place and talking to my friend, my mom calls and says if we need to, we can move in with them, put our things in storage and save money. The benefit would be closer to SO's job, but In turn I would be the one commuting 45 minutes, however, I don't mind driving.
I'm not sure how living at my parents would affect us as a family though. My dad likes to be in control and when it comes to our kids they kind of disregard what I say. Yes, they're grandparents but Im still their mom, they should support me in my decisions! He's more respectful of my SO, the man to man thing I guess. My SO says it's cause they still see me as their "little girl" so they like to make decisions for me.
Like with offering their place, my mom said "if we need to" but I hear my dad in the background saying there's no need to check elsewhere they can just start moving their things in. What happened to letting us weigh our options and making a decision?
Also, I find my SO doesn't want to transition to the other location because of his job (he's been there about 6 years although he could transfer) and not wanting to be far from his twin daughters, which their mother has been inconsistent with days/times with them anyway.
I don't want to put too many irrelevant details, but I tried putting in everything that would be affected. Hopefully I wasn't too confusing.
Does anyone see if there's a fair compromise in this situation?
I have prayed about it cause I know God wouldn't give us more than we can bear.
I don't know what to do?! :-/ I've had such a headache since Thursday. :-(
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