I have heard this term often. Recently I asked a question in general parenting answers about my kids and the kids I watch fighting over cups. Several people felt that I should just go buy one color so no one would fight. However I don't think that I should buy new things to keep them from fighting, fighting is unacceptable, regardless of what color cup you get.
So when it comes to situations like that with your kids, when you "Pick and choose your battles" are you giving into your kids? Do you think it send a negative message to your kids?
Can you give me an example where picking and choosing your battles influence your children's behavior in a positive way?
Answer by sugamama3 at 9:39 PM on Jun. 18, 2011
well, when my kids fight over a certain thing, that certain thing goes on top of the refrigerator (and if it is especially bad fight we throw it away or donate it....depends on what it is). i am not sure if that would be choosing your battles or not, but they do remember that mommy makes promises, not empty threats and they don't fight over things as much anymore. they usually share since they know what will happen if they fight over something enough. so i guess that is a positive outcome....they share instead of fight.
Answer by princessbeth79 at 9:41 PM on Jun. 18, 2011
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Answer by GrnEyedGrandma at 9:49 PM on Jun. 18, 2011
Sometimes picking your battles is more for my sanity than anything else. Do I care what color plate they eat from...NO, is it worth a daily battle and struggle to get them to just eat off of whatever plate they have..NO. Important battles to me are about health and safety and education..dinnerware is whatever makes it easiest for me. If the plates and cups and bowls are all the same color (and in my house they are - which I learned from my first set of children) my life becomes easier and less hectic and I can concentrate on what I think are more important things. It's a plate..make it easy on yourself.
Answer by meooma at 9:58 PM on Jun. 18, 2011