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ED? How do we talk about it adult content

We tried to have sex the other day for first time since Jan. Husband finally gave up trying & said he thought it was broke...this has been an issue for awhile. For the past couple of years its become harder for him to maintain erection. (& very difficult for him to talk about) I have no idea how to deal with this or what to even say...he's like 36, why is this happening?

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 11:03 PM on Jun. 18, 2011 in Health

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  • Stress, hormones, age, and could be a medical problem.

    You are married and have shared some really embarrassing times. There is no reason why you cannot talk about this. Sit down with him and discuss getting him to a doctor. It could be something really simple causing it.
    Jademom07

    Answer by Jademom07 at 11:05 PM on Jun. 18, 2011

  • Just straight forward. Make an appt and go together if he's okay with that. Lots of things can cause it. Low testosterone, diabetes, High blood pressure, peyronnes disease (plaque accumulates in the spongy tissue of the penis causing a curvature. The more advanced it gets and erections become painful) Something as simple as taking a blood pressure med or large doses of Vitamin E can solve it. He is likely embarrassed and feeling like his manhood is slipping away. Encourage him to go to the Dr. There can also be serious health issues that are not so simple..like prostate or testicular cancer. Either way he needs to know. Good Luck.
    GrnEyedGrandma

    Answer by GrnEyedGrandma at 11:20 PM on Jun. 18, 2011

  • he needs to get to a urologist and talk as embarrassing as this may be-medical issue no fault to you or your man-mediccal problems that may need addressing good luck!!!
    Gemini5

    Answer by Gemini5 at 12:35 AM on Jun. 19, 2011

  • let him know you still love him and you are OK with cuddling and such . Many men feel as if they need to perform( my DH is on meds and has problems)
    RobinChristine

    Answer by RobinChristine at 1:37 AM on Jun. 19, 2011

  • Straight forward but with love and wisdom and also at the right time that is when he is not in a bad mood.Then show him immediately the solution so as not to make him mad and hopeless.You know men like to hide their weaknesses and get mad at people who want expose them.I pray God will help you out.
    Jeelly

    Answer by Jeelly at 9:10 AM on Jun. 19, 2011

  • If he has a physician who he trusts and who knows him... it will be MUCH easier than you think! Really any good family doc should be. it's such a pride issue for the men, and I understand. We had to go to the Dr and the Dr was so matter of fact. No emotion or compassion.. which helped my honey. He just talked about facts, gave us some samples.. and OMIGOSH did they work!! ;) They were only needed for a time....
    AudraMorgan

    Answer by AudraMorgan at 3:46 AM on Jul. 6, 2011

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