My former in-laws and I have always gotten along. They asked to get DD for a whole week after July 4, they do this every summer, but generally later. I had already scheduled vacation that week, because daycare is closed. I switched things around so they could get her, but I asked them to ask their son if I could have her for the holiday(it's my normal weekend, but he would get her for most of it because of the holiday). I had talked with him previously and he didn't really even seem to want her. We don't get along well, which is why I asked his parents to ask him. They didn't, but still wanted to know if they could have her. I told them I had to talk to him first. So, I did and we agreed. Then I got a nasty email from his parents telling me they were getting her cause they know I already talked to him. They even told me where I would have to drive for them to get her. This really pissed me off. I didn't respond, since the email said they'd contact me when they had the time. I always go out of my way so they can see DD, this is the first time I ever asked anything of them. I'm taking time off work to spend with my DD (I just recently have gotten enough vacation to do this, and was planning since March), now I have to take time off to drive 2 hours at whatever time the want??? Seriously??? I don't know why I've got to waste a vacation day to do whatever they want, they are retired and BF hasn't worked in 2 years! So now they email asking if I got the email? I'm still pissed about them telling me what I'm going to do. My rebellious spirit wants to tell them FU, she's my DD and grandparents won't be telling me what to do. I really don't want them to disrespect me like her BF does, I'm so sick of feeling like a freaking door mat!Answer Question
Answer by Jeelly at 8:52 AM on Jun. 19, 2011
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Answer by gemgem at 9:41 AM on Jun. 19, 2011
I'd send a email (in a nice way) saying that you got there email and everything will work except for you going to meet them. Let them know that because of work you just won't be able to make it. Then you can give them 2 choices
1. They can come all the way to pick her up on the day that they planned. (2 is just a bluff but you have to do it to make them feel like they are making the choice) 2. They can wait till you have the day off (which will inconvience their vacation) and then you can meet them where they planned.
You can do this in a nice way giving them the choice and that way you've accommodated them all you can. Hopefully this works and they come to get her. It sucks to be this way but when you're dealing with completely unreasonable people you just have to manipilate the situation so that it works best for you!! Good luck!!!
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