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I dont make my kids call their dad on fathers day, do you?

I have 5. Ones with his dad so he can say whatever he wants to him. My 6 yr old is at home. I was married at 18 and had 3 kids with a man we stayed together until I was 26-27. He hasnt seen them but a handful of times since 98. Each time was for oh between 40 minutes longest was 3-4 hours. Anyway I dont make them call him. He gets mad like its my duty. Now they are basically grown. I dont remind them either. They actually give me fathers day gifts. How would you handle it?

 
gemgem

Asked by gemgem at 9:58 AM on Jun. 19, 2011 in Teens (13-17)

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Answers (12)
  • he made his own bed, let him lay in it.
    xxhazeldovexx

    Answer by xxhazeldovexx at 11:28 AM on Jun. 19, 2011

  • I guess it depends on the relationship they have or the lack there of... Our 2 youngest are at their biodads today, our oldest is here with me, and my Hubby (his adopted Dad) is at work about 1000 miles away so he will call him in a little bit. His biodad decided to disappear almost 9 yrs ago, so he won't be getting a phone call. Even if we knew the number our son wouldn't call him, he's not a Dad to him...
    MrsLeftlane

    Answer by MrsLeftlane at 10:07 AM on Jun. 19, 2011

  • don't infulence your kids about ther dad !! if you had problems or u the relation was just ended cause no more to give let kids away from you both .. if they forget encourage them ..he's still there dad whatever he did ... without him you couldn't have them .... be mor open mind dear ... and let them celebrate that day as every kids around ;)
    caramelH

    Answer by caramelH at 10:14 AM on Jun. 19, 2011

  • No, I don't make my son call someone who has ignored him for his entire life. His "father" chose to stay away so he doesn't deserve a phone call. Why should I encourage my son to call someone who can't even call him on his birthday? My son and his "father" share a birthday and my son hasn't received a phone call for 14 birthdays. If a father wants acknowledgement on Father's Day or other special days, then they need to step up and be a dad.
    tyfry7496

    Answer by tyfry7496 at 11:32 AM on Jun. 19, 2011

  • my son s dad he is faraway today. but we got a good relationship soon as he pay the child support on time.
    i will make my son call him to remind him he got a son.
    satwins

    Answer by satwins at 10:14 AM on Jun. 19, 2011

  • Since I am still married to the father of my 4 children, I don't have to "make" my children call their father.

    But honestly, you shouldn't be the one that influences their feelings about their father. You should be as neutral as possible and tell them that they should give their father a call since it is Father's Day.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:22 AM on Jun. 19, 2011

  • I would be the better person and have them call, regardless of the past. We picked our children's fathers, not them.
    Musicmom80

    Answer by Musicmom80 at 10:23 AM on Jun. 19, 2011

  • I dont bad mouth him or influence them. They are 17, 19, and 21 I dont think it is MY job anymore if all to make them call him. He has bad mouthed me but I have learned over the years I have no need for that, in the end they tend to figure things out on their own.
    gemgem

    Comment by gemgem (original poster) at 10:26 AM on Jun. 19, 2011

  • My kids give their dad gifts for Father's Day and me gifts for Mother's Day. If their dad wasn't in the picture, we just wouldn't celebrate Father's Day.
    scout_mom

    Answer by scout_mom at 12:44 PM on Jun. 19, 2011

  • No but I think they do it anyway
    admckenzie

    Answer by admckenzie at 12:55 PM on Jun. 19, 2011

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