So...I know I'm not the only one. I'm a SAHM of a 13 month old and I absolutely LOVE what I do and don't regret it whatsover. That being said...it's so tough to be friends with moms of babies your age that are able to give their children EVERYTHING! I know that it's just material items, but it's so hard! Being on one income we have to be careful with what we spend, but my child's BIG one year gift was a membership at Gymboree and a ride on toy. A party we went to a month ago they spent well over 1000 on the party and gifts GALORE including a jungle gym, playhouse, smart trike, dollhouse, crazy coupe buggy etc....and this was just from the parents! It's so hard, and although I KNOW that he's small and only one, I can't help but feel guilty that I can't give him all this stuff. Any advice on how to cope with those feelings?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 9:04 PM on Jun. 19, 2011 in General Parenting
Answer by BabyBugsmama at 9:08 PM on Jun. 19, 2011
I was the oldest of 3 kids (now 6 with 3 adoptees). My mom was single parents in the Air Force. I know she struggled to give us everything we wanted and a lot of the time we did not have the trendiest clothes or brand new things. Was it hard to grow up seeing my friends get things while we went to the thrift store and wore hand-me-downs from moms troops? Yes. But today I am a happy, intelligent, (frugal) woman with a 3 yo of my own. I am this way because my mom taught us that while we were not rich in material things we were filled with the wealth of love. I never doubted that my mom wanted to give us things but I also knew I could talk to her about anything anytime and that is more powerful that walking though the school halls with a new backpack. My mom is my best friend and I would not have changed my childhood or how we lived for anything. Your child knowing that you love them it was matters. I promise.
Answer by LadybugTash at 9:10 PM on Jun. 19, 2011
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Answer by KellyGirl_TX at 9:15 PM on Jun. 19, 2011
I worked PT and my kids (now 24 and 20) had/have a great deal, but they also saw their father and me work very, very hard for their entire lives. Both kids know how to work hard and how to save a dollar. IMO, seeing parents walk the walk makes a huge difference in their expectations.
Answer by Sisteract at 9:32 PM on Jun. 19, 2011
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Answer by Tracys2 at 10:19 PM on Jun. 19, 2011
The kids who get everything appreciate nothing. If you really want your child to have something, find it at a second hand shop or on eBay for very low cost. You will be able to treat your son with special gifts; they just might not be new, that's all. He won't know the difference... Parties can be at home and very low cost. Oriental Trading has party items for every theme very cheap Oriental Trading
Answer by RobotLady at 11:47 PM on Jun. 19, 2011