My SO and I have an adorable sunny faced baby girl. She is the first grand baby for both our parents. My mother is a very responsible, sweet woman and I always ask her to watch our daughter if we need to do something.
My MIL is a pill popping drunk who I think might also be a narcissist. She is always in an argument with somebody, she plays the victim card like a professional, she is always making very poor decisions and she always blacks out with out remembering what she did. She continually complains that we do not let her watch the baby to all her friends, then they all get on to me about it. My SIL and SO both think we all need to have an intervention with their mom. My response to them was, "Before you have an intervention with her, you both need to make a commitment to stop calling your mother when you want her to hang out with you to drink so she will foot the bill. Also, how will she take you seriously if you both drink more than her on a daily basis?" They did not agree with me. My SO and SIL handle there alcohol ok, but I think because my MIL is on prescribed medicines the combination of alcohol is not very good obviously. My SO and I were only dating for a month before I became pregnant and we have successfully grown our relationship for the exception of this problem.
For a while, we have used the time spent going out to restaurants as a way for the in-laws to see the baby so she can be closely watched by me and we can leave after an hour to say we can put her to bed. I used to let them come over, but they would stay over for hours and drink the booze they brought with them. I am starting to see the flaws in the restaurant plans because I get ambushed by the MIL's drunk friends. When I say drunk, I mean slurring talk, stumbling all over the place, arguing about ridiculous things, 50-year old women flashing their boobs, etc.
I feel like we are enabling my MIL to behave the way she is and she has so many culprits she will never think it is wrong. In your opinion, what is the best way for me to approach this? How involved should I get?
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