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What do you think his motives are?

Me and my ex split up about a month ago. I moved out. We both still have feelings for each other, just can't get along. The sex has always been AMAZING though. We've been talking about sleeping together for weeks. Last night he texted me and wanted to know if i'd meet him on my lunch break today for that reason... 15 minutes before, he cancels saying "He just can't do it". I have three views on this. Which do you think is right or could it be something else. 1. He knows there are still feelings there and thinks it would make things worse. 2. He's trying to hurt me any way possible, because I am the one who left. 3. He is seeing somebody (I know this) and maybe he doesn't want to "cheat". Obviously none of y'all know the reason... just looking for suggestions.

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Asked by Anonymous at 12:37 PM on Jun. 20, 2011 in Relationships

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    Answer by pookiekins34 at 12:38 PM on Jun. 20, 2011

  • My advice is to either be done with the relationship or not. His reasons aren't relevant to you taking care of yourself.

    Answer by Dr.Donna at 12:39 PM on Jun. 20, 2011

  • could be anything..

    Apparently he's not worried about having feelings still or he wouldn't have done it this long.
    Unless he's a jackass, he wouldn't want to hurt you because you still have sex with him.
    Depends on how long hes been with this someone else.. if he's been cheating on her, then I can't imagine he would just stop unless she is becoming suspicious.

    Be careful & Good Luck!♥

    Answer by SuperrMommyy at 12:40 PM on Jun. 20, 2011

  • I'd go with either 1 or 3. But I think if you're done, you need to be done. Sleeping together isn't going to help anything.

    Answer by wendythewriter at 12:41 PM on Jun. 20, 2011

  • Agree with windy.....

    Answer by CollinsMommy729 at 12:54 PM on Jun. 20, 2011

  • Oh my gosh...wEndy. Lol sorry.

    Answer by CollinsMommy729 at 12:54 PM on Jun. 20, 2011

  • having sex with an x is going to make it worse no matter what the reasons are. better just let it go and find someone else.

    Answer by takes_a_village at 1:03 PM on Jun. 20, 2011

  • LOL CollinsMommy729, it's ok. I get rather talkative (typeative? Is that a word?) sometimes, so I guess Windy works, too. :)

    Answer by wendythewriter at 1:12 PM on Jun. 20, 2011

  • if you know he is sleeping with another woman
    WHY would you even consider being with him
    who cares what his reasons are for changing his mind about hookingup with you
    the question should be why would any woman want to be any man's sloppy seconds

    Answer by fiatpax at 1:56 PM on Jun. 20, 2011

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