I am at my wits end with my 3 1/2 year old daughter. Now she has always been a bit difficult & she has always been punished consistantly.
My issue now is attitude, being sassy, mocking, not listening, etc. For example she would be told to do something dosent do it now one of two things usually happens with her either she runs away giggling thinking its a game & refuses to come back or near me to do the task or listen. When she runs away I have to chase her down pick her up force her to do whatever it is then hauled off to punishment.
Other times she mocks me or something like I'll say "if you dont pick up the toys you will go to bed when we get home" then looks at me & goes "no if you dont pick up the toys I'll put you to bed" meaning she is going to punish me. After weeks of her doing this & me explaining to her how its not polite respectful or nice she is now at the point where I believe she understands it & is being punished for her attitude & sassy.
I dont believe in punishing my child without her understanding what is happening so like I said I have spent time explaining it & shining light on her attitude & talking to her about it now she should be understanding what is going on. I dont even give her warnings about such things anymore bc my goodness she is doing it daily & sometimes multipul times a day & takes it to the extreme usually.
Now a simple few min time out hasent been overly affective for a long time now. Stern voice, threats none of that works. A while ago I'd say almost a year maybe time out went from sitting in a chair to going to bed. Now this means if she is out of hand too much & wont listen she goes into her bedroom & will stay there all day into the night & wont come out in the morning to start a new day. I realize this sounds harsh & if you dont agree with this then I dont care you dont need to say anything negative my child is just fine & loved more then most.
So if she ends up having to go to her bedroom early on in the day after she calms down which is at least an hour sometimes a couple (she stands at the doorway screaming mean things & begging trying to find ways to get out) I will speak with her & she can come out bc I think its too mean to keep her in there if she goes in at 10am which she does many times.
Enough rambling my point/question here is I dont know what to do anymore. This has been going on for a long time & she dosent seem to be getting it or care. The punishment which at once worked dosent anymore. Of course I dont like to punish her but her attitude is out of hand & the things she says are insane once she said she was going to kill me while in time out (she was spoken to about that in a very serious & harsh manner & has yet to do it again).
I need help! Any ideas on new punishments? I dont spank or put soap/things in her mouth. Three min time out works for a quick fix if at others houses, public, or for small issues. I put her in the bedroom as I explained above. If she is inapropriate with a toy it goes on top of the fridge for a two day period but I only do that if it had something to do with a toy I wont take them away if the crime had nothing to do with toys. I dont know what to do please help me, thanks.
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