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HOW CAN YOU BREAK UP WITH SOMEONE WITHOUT SAYING "IM DONE" OR "ITS OVER"

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 10:02 PM on Jun. 20, 2011 in Relationships

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  • um you cant b/c their idiots!!!
    amberpaiz

    Answer by amberpaiz at 10:04 PM on Jun. 20, 2011

  • I think we have grown apart over the last few months and it would be best if just went separate ways...
    But_Mommie

    Answer by But_Mommie at 10:04 PM on Jun. 20, 2011

  • The relationship is not what I expected and in reality I don't think that either of us is getting what we need...?
    LuvmyFam6

    Answer by LuvmyFam6 at 10:05 PM on Jun. 20, 2011

  • Tell the truth ,and get it over with fast. Don't lead it on.
    debbie4911

    Answer by debbie4911 at 10:06 PM on Jun. 20, 2011

  • You might not use the exact word we're done or it's over, but in the end, it is what you are saying. You have to. If you end a relationship using vague terms like I need some time or I'm not sure this is working, it leaves the door open for them to think it's not really over or that they still have a chance to change your mind.

    If you're done and it's over, then you just need to come out and say that. It is possible to say it gently and to be kind and not hurt them (well, they're going to be hurt, but you can ease the pain a bit), if that's what you're worried about. But you have to be clear and firm or they won't get it.
    wendythewriter

    Answer by wendythewriter at 10:08 PM on Jun. 20, 2011

  • to be nice or mean about it...
    1) get the f*@& out of my life....
    2) i really don't see us moving forward in this relationship...
    mommys2cupcakes

    Answer by mommys2cupcakes at 10:42 PM on Jun. 20, 2011

  • "It isn't you, it's me"
    "I feel you could do so much better"
    "There are some thing I need to work on in terms of myself and I need to do it alone"
    "I feel we need a break because it's not going in the right direction"
    emmyandlisa

    Answer by emmyandlisa at 10:45 PM on Jun. 20, 2011

  • We can't put ourselves through this anymore.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:50 PM on Jun. 20, 2011

  • How about it isn't me it's you? I've always like that more than it isn't you it's me.
    southernbelletx

    Answer by southernbelletx at 10:57 PM on Jun. 20, 2011

  • Just be honest. If you sincerely feel that the relationship isn't working then you need to let the other person know. Regardless of the words you are using, in essence what you are saying is "it's over" or "I'm done." So, what I would do is just state honestly how I felt and end it.
    mrsbentley07

    Answer by mrsbentley07 at 11:21 PM on Jun. 20, 2011

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