I have been babysitting my granddaughter for free since the day she was born. I love kids! I love my granddaughter. I am a retired preschool teacher, and she's now four years old! But I've raised my kids - all four of them. This isn't what I planned to be doing at this point in my life. I would rather take care of my grandchild once a week, and make it something special, than do it every day and feel a little resentful.
However, my daughter can't afford to pay anyone to babysit. She makes just one step above minimum wage, and doesn't qualify for much in food stamps.
Head start would be free. There is a preschool program right in our public school that would also be free. My daughter doesn't want to send her child there! She expects me to continue babysitting. She's afraid her child will be labeled "ADHD" - which she won't. Grandchild is active, but not unusually so. She also is afraid of being pressured into getting vaccines. We both do not believe in them, and have had a doctor's note excusing us from being required to give them to my grandchild. She has had some vaccines, but there are tons that are given now, and there still is no proof that they do not cause autism or other health problems.
Anyway, I know I have a right to "quit" - but am I just being selfish? I mean, I am a GREAT preschool teacher! Should I just suck it up and do this for one more year? I should mention that I am menopausal, and taking anti-depressants. I've also been sick a LOT this winter - one viral infection after another. I've been on antibiotics so many times, there's probably not any good bacteria left in me. I'm tired. Need help!
Asked by Anonymous at 10:20 PM on Jun. 20, 2011 in General Parenting
Answer by But_Mommie at 10:24 PM on Jun. 20, 2011
Answer by BethLopez at 10:26 PM on Jun. 20, 2011
Answer by danichaos at 10:49 PM on Jun. 20, 2011
You are not being selfish. You have gone above and beyond what most people would have done. Give yourself some credit. How awesome you got the time you did with your granddaughter. :-) Talk to your daughter and let her know how you are feeling. You sound like a wonderful person and I sure your daughter is the same. She will understand. You can still have her a couple days a week or whatever works for you and she sill get used to being around new people and a different schedule. I think it could be a great thing for everyone. As far as the shots etc. It will all work out OK. I believe all you have to do is to sign a form that she is not vaccinated. Maybe you could call and get more information to know for sure what she would require. The world could use more people like you.
Answer by LeJane at 10:50 PM on Jun. 20, 2011
Answer by Princess_s21 at 11:05 PM on Jun. 20, 2011
Answer by mrsbentley07 at 11:13 PM on Jun. 20, 2011
Answer by 2autisticsmom at 10:31 AM on Jun. 21, 2011
Answer by salexander at 11:18 AM on Jun. 21, 2011
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