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What should i do????

still in love with my dd's father things just arent working out. some days he wants us to be together most days not. he wants to be in her life but he hasnt changed or took the time to grow up and be a dad. should i let him be there when he can and leave him or should i give him a chance to grow up and be a man??? btw he is 22 almost 23 and says he realli loves us he just doesnt know how to show it and all that good stuff???? we have known each other for 7 years dated for 3 and i find it really hard to just try and let him go ahhh help:(

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Asked by khyleezmama at 11:24 AM on Jun. 21, 2011 in Relationships

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  • Sometimes it takes guys longer to feel the joy that a child brings. Give him time.

    Answer by dancer at 11:32 AM on Jun. 21, 2011

  • Counseling may get him to see that kids need an adult dad, not one that acts like a kid. To me it seems that part of him wants to grow up but part (a bigger part for now) wants him to still be irresponsible.  He may also need to see that there are ways to find a balance between both to some degree.


    Answer by JSD24 at 11:32 AM on Jun. 21, 2011

  • What immature things is he doing? Is he able to help provide for his daughter, is he faithful, does he really love you, or does he like the convenience of you?do you love him? Or are you just afraid of starting over? You deserve the best, don't settle for just someone who happens to be the father of your child. Let him see your daughter, but do some serious thinking.

    Answer by BabyBugsmama at 11:38 AM on Jun. 21, 2011

  • freedom is calling his name, im guessing
    he's not sure if he's willing to loose it at a young age
    i wouldn't take it personally

    Answer by lizzybee44 at 11:49 AM on Jun. 21, 2011

  • I would just focus on you and your daughter. Make it clear that you love him and want to be with him but if he wants to act single be single and hes still her dad and should be there to provide and comfort and if it was meant then it will work out. But please dont be going back and forth. Thats a waste of your time and happiness. Believe me I know.

    Answer by shar-hulk at 11:55 AM on Jun. 21, 2011

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