Our lawn hasn't been mowed in 2 wks. Finally bought a mower ourselves, and dh dropped it off this morning. I noticed it was here, but no key. Called dh for the key."oh, I can't right now."
I can mow the damn lawn. Have mowed the lawn since I was 12.
I said, "dear, I'm gonna be mowing anyway, because I'm not about to wait til Sunday, and MAYBE you have an afternoon off."
"I'm just going to have to show you how to operate it."
"It's a mower?"
"No, much more than just a mower. I'll have to show you this evening if I have time."
Ok, don't think this would bother me as much if it actually made a difference if he was here or not. I'm not 5, and he's not a lawn mower mechanic (in any sense of the word... I sharpened the blades on our last one myself, every time they needed it) so if it broke down while he was here, he couldn't do anything anyway!
He was this way when we bought my jeep (Laredo). Didn't want me in it til he could show me how to use 4WD. This way when we bought the diesel, as if I had never driven a standard, nor pulled a trailer.
If I don't think I can easily figure it out, or don't know how to do it, I'm the first person to ask for help! But I know I can handle the mower for heaven's sake!
How can I present this to him without going all defensive, or just tolerating it? I'm tired of pretending it's ok for him to infantilize me, and believe that I'm incapable of doing anything on my own. He isn't this way with anyone else at all, and 6 years has been too long for this to continue. He knows I'm not dumb, or wimpy, or bull-headed. He knows I'm not young to now the rockpile, or the tree stump. I just want to now the damned yard while it is 70 out instead of 95! Help!
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