My husband really upset me today, over something that has been a problem between us for 6 years. I've written him a very blunt, brutally honest letter about how I feel about it. It's accusatory and angry.
I have talked about this problem for 6 years. I have talked calmly, come up with solutions, cried, begged, yelled and talked some more. I have always ALWAYS tried to be gentle with his feelings before.
I'm worried that if he sees this letter it will hurt him. I'm worried that if he doesn't our marriage will continue to erode until there's nothing left. I already feel like there's no way he can ever meet my needs. I mean... it's been 6 years of me talking and him trying and it's gotten marginally better.
Could leaving this letter for him (we won't see each other until probably 7:00 tonight) be the shock he needs to understand how much this hurts me, or is it more likely to just hurt him? I NEED for him to REALLY understand this, and he doesn't seem to. Either that or he doesn't care, which is what I accused him of in the letter.
What would you do? Would you be brutally honest about how you feel or would you continue to sugar coat things to hurt him as little as possible?
Asked by Anonymous at 2:09 PM on Jun. 21, 2011 in Relationships
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