My son is 8. He wants to be in control of everything. If his siblings or friends are not playing the way he thinks they should be playing, he starts crying, yelling, and throwing a temper tantrum. If he comes into the living room and sees his brother watching a show, he starts crying and going on about how he "never gets to watch anything" which is not true, I make them take turns. He throws a fit when he is asked to do chores, even though he is asked to do them every day, and he knows that there is no playing or any fun till chores are done. He whines about everything, nothing is ever "fair"... I can't even get birthday presents for the other kids without him screaming about how he "didn't get anything" even though he did on his birthday.
Now, first off, we do not excuse his behavior. He has consequences for temper tantrums. When he starts throwing a fit for chores, more chores are added. When he gets bossy and mean when playing, he is grounded from playing the rest of the day. When he throws a fit over the tv, he looses his tv time for the day ect... Same rules for all our kids.
But it is not working. He is a drama queen over everything and I spend my day taking his privileges away and he spends his day hating me because I am "mean". I don't know how to get out of this cycle with him. He seems to hate me, and while I love him, I really don't like him right now. Every day is a constant battle with him. Its not like that with his siblings, and his older brother was never this way, so I am at a loss as to what I am supposed to do. Its always been our model that you work hard, and show respect and you earn privileged, and he is rebelling against that model at full speed.
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