After 9 years and I've stood by him through it all. He refuses to better himself and blames the world for all his problems. He's a liar and can't keep a job for longer than a year because he lies and won't get to work on time. He's flunked out of 3 schools because I won't do his work anymore. He's cheated and keeps trying to do it again but at this point he's so fat and won't shower so no one wants him. He takes money from the bank without letting me know(I do bills) and overdraws our account on a regular basis. The sex SUCKS, despite asking him to try new things 5 YEARS ago he still hasn't. After the time he hired a prostitute, I cheated. Since he has no respect for me I'd do it again, I get no affection from him and don't want it. I don't like him anymore. We don't sleep in the same bed anymore. I DO have a degree to support myself. I worry for the kids, they love him.
Asked by Anonymous at 9:44 AM on Dec. 13, 2008 in Relationships
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Answer by VictinaG at 9:48 AM on Dec. 13, 2008
You should give him a set date to get help--whatever in your mind you think he needs. If not, give him a date to be out by. But before that get all your ducks in a row by contacting a lawyer and be prepared to carry it through. I am never for divorce--never--but I think there are times there is no other option--sounds to me like you are in one of those situations. You could tell him to move out by a certain date, file for a legal separation, and if he doesn't change in that time, file for divorce at the end of that year. Most lawyers will try to talk you into just filing for divorce, but if you want to give him a chance, file for a legal separation. You can't carry him. I would also suggest you get some help for yourself to figure out why you would feel the need to stay and be drained by such a man. Perhaps some co-dependency going on...
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