my child is not yet 4
she has speech delay (autism)
the kids in neighborhood (lots of them)
some will make fun of her speech
i have tried saying lots of things like
in past i have used the positive approach, give kids an option to be nice-complainment them (you are big, you are smart, you can be helpful)
- no one is good at everything
- you big kids can help her with her words
-she can learn so much from you big kids, because you have great words
-you are smart enough that you know what she is saying
-it is not nice to make fun of others
having problem with a few kids -aged four and five who start the making fun of my daughter- it is now pretty common game to laugh at her
yesterday two kids (4 and 5.5, only ones out there, we go out, they make fun of her, then go straight to play on her swingset - i tell boys NO, you can not make fun of her then go to play on her toys - what more can i do?
have spoken to oneof the boys parents
i am the only parent out there 90% of the time
(i think) she is starting to kind of see that this is not nice of the other kids, can not express it yet, and just starting to seem to understand that these kids are making fun of her and not laughing with her - still notfully getting, but it breaks my heart
do i speak to the parents AGAIN about their kids, or just kick the kids out of the yard EVERY time they tease her even a little bit (my yard is the cool place to play) seems that this will be my currency to use against these little kids
how can i make a lesson in not making fun of little kids with delays stick in their little heads
and, i worry, next Fall she will be in a real school with mostly "typical" kids, last year was in special education where 85% of kids have delays
Aww sweetie,i really feel your pain. A few years back my son was being teased by the neighbor kids who would stand outside his bedroom window and make fun of his speech. When I confronted the moms,they told me it was their yard too and they could do whatever they wanted. My son knew he was being made fun of. i know its not normally recommended,but I keep him away from the non-handicapped kids. the kids with issues are more understanding and loving. I'd like to tell you that it gets better,but the older theyget,the meaner they get when they notice differences between them. My hope for you is that your daughter finds that special friend or two that embraces the differences and loves her for who she is,not what makes her different.
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It is your yard, and more importantly here, it's your daughter's yard. If those kids can't be kind to her, they can play elsewhere. I would talk with the parents again and let them know that because the situation has gotten worse you will be sending kids home when they start making fun of your little girl. A child at that age knows it's not right and it needs to be stopped while they are young.
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