I have a son, Connor, that will be 2 on August 7th. Right after he was born and for a few months after, I said there was no way I would have anymore kids because A. I wasn't able to fathom how to take care of 2, and B. I just loved him too much to want to give another child my attention. Well as time has gone on and he's slipped out of the baby stage, I have decided I do definitely want at least 1 more. My problem is that I am still having issues with understanding how in the world you could ever love another child the same. My son and I are extremely close...he doesn't want anyone else but me (which I'm sure is the same with most kids) but we just have a really strong bond. He's also getting to the age where we can start taking him to do fun things that he'd enjoy and I'm going to feel bad if that all has to stop because we can't bring the baby.
I know that one day he'll appreciate having another sibling because I've heard a lot of only children say they wish they had one, but right now I don't think he'd be too happy and it would make me feel guilty. I have a gut feeling I might resent the baby or have problems giving it my attention. However, I don't want my son and his brother or sister to be too far apart in age that they won't be as close.
So my question is, do I want longer until my feelings change about having another baby, or do I suck it up and start trying now in the hopes that my feelings will change in the next 9 months, for the sake of them being close?
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