I'm trying to gather information and make a plan for filing from divorce from my husband of two years. we have 2 very young daughters (3 and 17 months), who I stay home and care for. He works full time, although isn't careful about his hours and doesn't put much effort into his job, which has always been iffy as far as highs and lows and keeping employees. he's never been let go from there, but they do it often and he has been demoted in the past.
Long story short, I'm miserable. He makes no effort to take care of his kids. When he does have to watch them while I'm in class 2 nights a week, I come home after 4 or 5 hours and their diapers are soaked through hanging off of them, he doesn't feed them dinner, doesn't do anything except tend to his own activities while they hang around him. This and many, many other issues have led me to this end.
We bought our house a year ago. It's in his name, as my credit was destroyed bailing us out of financial difficulties and any bills in my name, he feels are solely MY problem, even though we mutually decided I would stay home with the kids while he worked. HOWEVER, although the house is in his name, I did sign some papers (can't remember what they were) and the whole reason we HAVE the house was that my grandparents generously provided a very large down payment (70,000 dollars), so that our mortgage is reasonable. They've also given us money for house payments or groceries when we've come up short since then. While it is my fault for destroying my own credit years ago (albeit, because at the time HE couldn't help us, so I did), he is a horribly irresponsible spender, and on paychecks where we have to pay our mortgage, we often come up short.
My question is, even though ONLY my family has contributed and are the reason we are in the house in the first place, am I the one who will have to leave, since it's only in his name? I plan on working to support myself and the girls after the divorce, and feel confident in my ability to cover the payments....did i completely screw myself and my family over? Are these things pretty cut and dry when it comes to settling a divorce? I feel like he will fight for the house, and I'm scared he will get it, and I did it to myself.
Asked by Anonymous at 1:03 PM on Jun. 22, 2011 in Relationships
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