Most reactions are "its not for you to deal with, you don't have the custody, your not the bio parent, let the parents deal with it" I'm sure there's more...you know I was raised with a step-father and I looked to him as my father he was the man of the house and it was respected.
With that being said I treat my ss as my own when it comes to his future, education,and all the teachings in his life. As I do exactly the same with my daughter.
His mother can't support him, does not make sure he is educated, can't even stay in a location long enough for him to make friends, although she loves him as she should that's not enough to raise a child.
Yes its my husbands son. But, I make all the final decision in my household, I am the one who supports our household, I handle the court business regarding my ss, and I don't get the people who say "step-parents don't have a say so" cause I do. So to all of you that seem to think that I am supposed to sit back and let the bio mother have all this say so in her sons life, obviously there is a reason as to why she doesn't have him and I am raising him with my husband.
I just think the simple answers would be the ones given to the questions. But the reality is I am the mother figure in my ss life and maybe some mothers can not accept the fact that there are women who can give birth but are unable to succeed at the duties that come along with the job of being a mother.
And for the lable of being the STEP-MOTHER...my ss got a step up from his bio mother and that's me. He love me as I do him. He is doing better than ever and he is truly happier than ever... in this household.
So to you all who think step-parents don't have a major role you might want to rethink it. I am thinking the ones who answer with those reactions I am speaking about are the ones who are in fear that someone could do a better job than them or maybe you just want that say so in the other parents life. Cause 50% of the time you aren't taking the best interest of the child its a control issue. With saying that...the other 50% are genuinely making good decisions for the child.
Not all step-parents are willing to take on the responsibility 100% as I have I'm not speaking for them....I get that. But my job as a parent is to be concerned with MY kids best interest. I stand tall for what I believe in and I believe in family and all of our futures...
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