here is the story: my so has 2 bm's, bm 1 has a dd and bm 2 has a dd also. dd2 (age 8) lives with us dd1 (age 11) with her mom. the last time dd1 visited dd2 was mean to her she said some very hurtful things, but i didn't know about that dd1 never told me or her dad. she went home and told bm1. she calls cussing me and my so for not doing anything. she even said tat dd2 needs to be put in a home so she wont be in dd1's life because she dont want her around her daughter. all this time she still didn't say what dd2 said that was soo bad. she goes on to tell me how dd1 dont like me, which was news to me because she always tells me how she loves me and cant wait till the wedding in sept. well i informed her that dd1 never came to me, she said that she shouldn't have to... im like how the hell do i know there is a problem if she dont say anything. not even a month ago i talked to dd1 and told her that she needs to come to me when dd2 says or does mean things to her. (she has in the past) so i tell bm1 that and she asks dd1 if i ever told her that and she said yes and that the reason she didnt is because she forgot. apparently it didnt hurt her too bad if she forgot to tell me something that bm1 says was so traumatizing that cant be around her. finally i got her to tell me what was said, dd2 told dd1 that she was getting fat, which is not nice but is true since she cant fit in the close that we just bought 2months ago. now since i did tell her to come talk to me when dd2 is mean to her, bm1 told dd1 that she dont want to hear her whining about something she could have told me and did not.
dd1 called so last night and told him that she hates me and dont want us getting married. i think its because she was called out on trying to get her mom mad at dd2 for something that happened over here. when she didnt say anything here.
i have gone out of my way to do things with both girls now she is acting like this. what do i say to her when she comes back this weekend? do i just talk about how she has been told to say something when something happens, or do i bring up what she said about hating me when i have done everything in my power to help her and give to her spend time with her even when her mom wont. i really dont know what to say to her now, and she will be here in 2 days. what would you do?
Asked by Anonymous at 2:17 PM on Jun. 22, 2011 in Tweens (9-12)
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