My husband committed suicide the end of February. The very last day, if I'm to be specific. He left behind his two sons, four and two years of age and myself. I have dealt with every emotion there is, if you can imagine it for a second. However, I know and have known that my sons have also felt the impact of his suicide. My two-year-old...not so deeply. He just asks where Daddy is. I do know it's strange for him, he's never really been apart from his father before. So I try my best to keep things as routine for him. I know that, especially at first, that was crucial for him.
My four-year-old is another story. Two years is a lot as far as maturity and just questions in general. He's obviously sad and a little confused about it all. I have explained that Daddy died and that he is in heaven. I'm pretty open and frank about the whole thing. The only part I have left out was how.
When he asked why Daddy had to die, I answered him truthfully. I didn't know. That was something only he and God knew.
However, when he asks how...I freeze. I don't know what to say. I don't want to tell him an outright lie. I was thinking maybe just that he was sick? I guess depression is a sickness. But I don't want him to be afraid the next time he or I or someone he knows got sick. I just don't know how to explain this. For about a month after my husband died, he was terrified that I wasn't going to come back. Essentially that's what happened to his father...he went to sleep and when he woke up...Daddy was gone.
How do I explain this?
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