They have to jump through hoop after hoop to get child support from the other parent and even when the other parent doesn't pay, they maybe get a slap on the wrist. Then they want to work but the dad doesn't want to help pay for daycare, or in my case, $40 a week for a friend to watch him instead of twice that for daycare, so they have no way to work or if they do work, they are working to pay for daycare. Why do we look at young dad's and feel sorry because they "couldn't" go to college because some mean judge ordered them to help support their kid and they "couldn't" make enough money tp pay the child support and go to school, meanwhile, mom is working 2 jobs, going to school and raising the child and while and is out having beers with his friend, mom is looking in the pantry, hoping there is enough food to get them through till her next paycheck or until she gets more food stamps. Why is it that dad can afford drag mom into court a couple times a year because he doesn't like something that is going on in her home, yet he has missed 3 child support payments this year? Why is it that if mom makes dad miss 3 months of visitation, she will be found in contempt yet if dad misses 3 months of child support, well at least he is around his child, money's not that important (of course, the child having a roof over their head, that will just happen, right?) Why is it that if mom moves on and has a relationship with a man, she is a sex crazed whore but if dad does the same, he is just looking for companionship after all he has been through. I am sorry, I am just so sick of the double standards.
Asked by Anonymous at 12:08 AM on Jun. 23, 2011 in Parenting Debate
oh ans msgwen nice way of saying women and children deserve to be beaten, cheated and harmed... you are simply a joke
Answer by JoLee12345 at 2:54 PM on Jun. 23, 2011
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Answer by NotPanicking at 12:55 AM on Jun. 23, 2011
Wow, almost sounds like you are the bitter mother of a child with a deadbeat dad! I have nothing against a single mother getting welfare -if it is used the way it was intended - as a hand up through a transistional period - not as a lifestyle! And, not for going to the bars, buying junk food, or supporting a "deadbeat" boyfriend - instead of for actually paying their bills before the utilities get shut off, buying nutritional food so their child has a healthier life, and then if there is any left over - the little "extras".
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