Me and my DH waited until having a house, being set in our jobs and together for 11 years before having our child, we both want another one however with college fund for him started, daycare, preschool and up coming activities, along with the ever present rising cost of well, EVERYTHING, we can't think about having another child.. being 32 and 39. this literally means to us, no more kids.. and having just the one.. would you consider that over thinking life and family?
Different scenerio... My sisters friend, lived with her DH, they had a daughter, the DH became the stay at home dad, they decided to , as their PLAN, have another baby and move in with her family so he can go to school, she can save money and the mother has been "choosen" to watch both kids
2nd scenerio:my cousin, he got married, they bought a house, they are sooo broke, a teacher and a furniture mover.. have a daughter, have my mom watch her for free, then his parents, once retired at 70+ watch the daughter but struggle for food and diapers but of course make too much for any assistance, have ANOTHER planned baby..
3rd scenerio.. my sister,had a daughter, no father in the picture,working 2 to 3 jobs and school also, finds loser after loser after drug addicted loser while we ( my mom and me and DH) "help" try to raise my niece, doesn't have time to give the hour, upon asked adviced from my sister on how to help my nieces moods and chores,. to give her ANY night of the week however loser # 1 or 2 always has time for her and then BAM.. got pregnant..
Scenerio # 4 my SIL.. ahh.. my SIL.. has a baby with abusing man she was with for 14 years, FINALLY leaves after our niece watched her father beat her with a broom stick and pushed her in a bathtub while my SIL has reumatory arthririts.. finds husband # 2.. has a child with him, who is by all means, jsut ROTTEN, has baby # 3 4 years later AFTER contemplating leaving him for multiple times and personality flaws such as him saying " i don't love you anymore" or "you fat pig"... NOW.. having to get a hysterectomy due to many many medical problems, wants to get it reversed and have another, # 4 baby with man # 2 -however, they both recently quit their jobs and took money out from his past jobs 401k
my ACTUAL question... why is it that we even ever think about not having a child if this is apparently "Common" thought processes around the world here?? or is it just my area / family/ friends ?
Answer by ThatBoysMom at 12:49 AM on Jun. 23, 2011
Answer by Musicmom80 at 12:42 AM on Jun. 23, 2011
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Answer by Musicmom80 at 12:53 AM on Jun. 23, 2011
Answer by ThatBoysMom at 12:54 AM on Jun. 23, 2011
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Answer by girlglow6 at 1:39 AM on Jun. 23, 2011