I asked a question a few days ago about my husband's ex putting up photo's of them all over each other.. we are friends wih this girl and it has been over ten years since they dated.. I do not know if they hooked up after the split or not but they have been "the bestest of friends" for the past ten years... when we started dating.. I definitely understood being friends with an ex..since if i had the chance to be friends with my first love i would be.. BUT i did not know that every story would have her in it.. the timelines of his life would be ..before her...during her.. or after her... and I did not expect that he would stand beside her more than he does me. For example.... at the end of last year his cousin pretty much cussed us all out and said some horrible things to all of us... and guess what.. he went on for a llooooooong time about not disrespecting his friends bc they are like family to him and then hte LAST sentence was about disrespecting me.. his wife. WELL a few days after she put the pictures up..she put up comments like... you have NO IDEA what happened behind these walls lol :) (the previous msg was about hand holding and smooching.., and my husband was the manager of the place) and also... i miss "us" <3 ... and yea he (my husband) was like she's alll MINE. I mean it is one thing to know you guys were a couple and its another to hear or see you talk about you two sleeping together and how you miss "us".... so He sent her a text saying he feels that it may be a bit disrespectful to their spouses... and she got a little pissy and was like... if our semi friendship is getting in the way of your marriage maybe I should just step back until your situation gets better.. REALLY? we are friends and i have even invited you to our house to stay..which you did.. its not your friendship its your comments!! well the last msg he sends her says... I'm sorry there are just thigngs happening outside of me right now. I wish everyone was cool all the time ... I''ll be fine and you'll be fine. That one was for you. ......... what the heck? When i said something to you about it you didnt apologize to me for her putting the comments up but you say sorry to her because i have a problem with them and I am not cool because i do have a problem with her saying the things she did or becuase i know there was a past.. but leave the shit in the past.. and you two will be fine ..so i guess that means regardless..we will be friends and we will be fine even if it splits up my marriage? forget about my wife.. and what the hell was for her??????? and he talks about respect.... that is NOT respect for me or standing by me.. that is respecting her and standing by her.. and he got mad when I asked him if there was ANY feelings left for her that would make him think about getting back with her bc apparently they are like sister/brother and that is disgusting,.... REALLY bc you slept with her for 4 years.. i dont see sister/brother relationships that way. I can not decide if I should say something or if he was just be friendly.. but the way I am taking it is as I stated earlier... should i try to look at this another way? if so please tell me because I do not want to leave my husband.. he is a good man and he has stuck by me through a LOT of thick this past year... but I do not want to feel that I am not as important as his high school sweetheart... HELP me please.Answer Question
Answer by stepmom2B29 at 10:22 AM on Jun. 23, 2011
Answer by sugamama3 at 10:23 AM on Jun. 23, 2011
and this is why i dont think spouse should be friends with people they've slept with in the past.....honestly your hubby needs to step away from this woman and show you the respect and compassion he has been showing her.....but there are always two sides to everything so maybe counseling for both of you would be a good idea.....
Answer by cara124 at 10:25 AM on Jun. 23, 2011
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